dont know what to do?

Question

ok so im so bored and i dont know what to do i have to go atheltics l8 (boring)and my xgf will be there and she has apprently got a new bf which i dont care coz i have i have also been seeing someone but i cant get with ths girl as my x will get so jealous (and i dont understand y we aint together anymore we both said it werent working) dont get me wrong i cudnt care wat my x thinks but she will prbly make this girls life hell for no reason. so anyway she will be there trying to get me jealous about her new bf but i wont, but i know my mates going to open his big mouth and blam about this new girl my x is going to be fuming and i just dont want things wrecked before they begin with this new girl what can i do ?

i know some ppl are going to say stupid stuff but they must have no lives at all if they waste there time putting people down for 2 points (wow) instead of helping thx for everyone that helps

im worried coz my x pressured me into tell her stuff that i didnt tell anyone and she can use it as ammo against me

Answer 1

Would love to help, but I got so out of breath reading all that without any full stops or comma's that I passed out!

Answer 2

I think it is just as well u aint with this girl ne more, she sounds like a cow. Why are you worried about her? If she does act like this then she really needs to grow up and get a grip on life - and you need to tell her this. You have both moved on and should be able to see whoever you want now. Why would she try and make you jealous? Sounds like she is either not over you, or just a very insecure and jealous person, in which case you are better off without her.

Answer 3

first of all, forget what your ex thinks. so what if she does get jealous do you want her back? are you going to take her back if she comes back?
no, great move on and just ignore any stupid comments she may make. if you do not answer her back when she makes any comments she will soon get bored and not bug you so much.
well dont take your new girlfriend with you. or at least if you do tell her your ex will be there and she wants you back and so has pans to make comments that may hurt. instruct your new partner to ignore those comments. if she reacts to the comments the comments will only escalate and get worse.

to be honest it should be a little common sense here. you know both your current and ex better than i or anyone else on her will or does. so using the guidelines above come up with something that you know will work out for the best.
but not going to athletics just because an ex may be there is not good for you. you have to confront her one day you may bump into her on the street with your current partner so the sooner you get the horrific meeting over the better.

it may hurt you and your partner emotionally but you need to stay strong if your ex does make any hurtful remarks.

I'm a straight single 33 year old guy, but current meeting an ex is never a good thing. it stings like hell for you as in awkward, and ex and current can end up trading stories about you. again a big embarasment.

so swallow your pride and just get that meeting over after first preparing your current partner for the abuse that may be waiting.

all you need say is words to the effect: I think my ex is going to be where we are going today, she wants me back, but i do not want her back i'm with you now, she has said or is known to be considering saying rude and abusive comments to you and in the hope of getting me back. Please ignore everything she may say as you are in my life now not her and you matter to me more than she does.

again change the above wording to something that sounds natural to you and that you mean. if you want to keep your current partner in your life.

good luck!

Answer 4

Well you say you have moved on, but have you really, seeing as what your ex thinks seems to matter so much? If as you say y our ex will get jealous, then she must not have not moved on as she says! I recon if she'd moved on, she wouldn't be bothered who you are with. So go to this event with your new gal and enjoy yourself, ignore your ex and have fun with your gal. This will let her know you've moved on to a better girl than her and that you don't need her. If she attempts to speak ill of your new gal, try to ignore her as this will annoy her more than if you retaliate. If she is really mean, ask her what it matters to her, who you are with seeing as she is no longer part of your life. Then advise her to get on with her life as you are now doing. Why should it matter to her, when she is supposedly seeing someone else? Don't take any crap! Good Luck!

Answer 5

What you can do is stop thinking about what you ex will think and just get on with it.What has it got to do with her she has got somebody else why can`t you.She is your ex for a reason and it`s no longer any of her business,try asking your new girlfriend what she wants to do,if she wants to come or not.Also explain that your ex will possibly be there and you`ll understand if she decides not to go...............good luck.

Answer 6

Poor you! Just warn this new girlfriend that your x is a mad cow and may try and split you up. If your new girlfriend is likes you enough she'll stand by you, if not then she wasn't meant to be. Good luck sweetie XX

Answer 7

you shuld explain this too ur new gf! if she realises what a ***** ur x is really then she has a choice being wif u or not because of ur ex tell this too her x x

Answer 8

im srry but u do NOT sound over this girl...u still lyk her and grls dont normally get over it 2 easy so ask 1 of her friends 2 c if she still lyks u mayb it will work and if it doesnt slap her (its wut u told me 2 do) lol