Does anyone have any advise for a new father of a baby boy.?

Question

I have a daughter but me having a son has made me nervous. I want to be my sons hero. His everything. Any suggestions

Answer 1

My son was adopted my my 2nd husband when he was 2.

When he was 18 and 3 weeks from HS graduation his bio father decided to make an appearance. He had never asked to see him, never paid a dime of child support during the time I was single. Never even acknowledged a birthday. NOW, he is telling my son he is coming to his graduation.

My son said he needed to give it some thought and give him a call back. his bio lives 1500 miles away.

He told me.. I told him it was his decision.. He said he wanted to wait until Dad got home and talk to him.

When my husband got home, they went outside and talked.. then my son came back inside and calld his bio back... trust me I was looking for things to wash in that kitchen so I could listen to that phone call!!! And God love him.. he put it on speaker.

He said that he had thought about it and talked it over with his parents and if he wanted to coome out it was ok. He would send him a list of the local hotels and he could make arrangements to stay in one.

My ex asked my son if his mother had a problem with him staying at the house. My son said, "No, I just don't think it would be fair to my Dad." Then my -ex got mad.. He said "I'm your dad"

I was so proud of my son.. Very calmly, he said.. "No, my dad came to my football games, my dad taught me to throw a slider, my dad worked 2 weeks of graveyard for a guy so he could take a weekend off to watch me compete in the State Wrestling Finals.. He never missed a meet, or a game, even if it meant switching shifts with someone and losing sleep because of it, and I never asked him to do it. My dad stayed at the hospital with me all night, when I had my appendix out, because Mom had to stay at the house with my sister. My dad taught me that if you respect people then they respect you, if you act honorably then people trust you. But I have a dad that I can talk to about anything. He always has time for me and my sister. He loves my Mom, and she's a pretty great Mom, and if you weren't smart enough to love her. Then you're not too bright.

You know I've changed my mind.. Mom told me once that I have your feet and the same color hair as you.. Someone might notice. I don't want you coming to graduation after all.
Goodbye".

There were tears in my husband eyes when the call ended, mine too.

Then our son asked if he could borrow the truck, instead of his VW... :)

So that's all you have to be for your kids...... THERE
Love them and let them know that you love them. Bring them up in a house that is full of love and acceptance. Let them know that the rules exist because you love them.. If there were no rules then you wouldn't care what they did. Kid's need a reason for what you say. That's why they hate "because I said so"

There is a Poem.. I guess it's a poem, or a verse.. maybe you can google it... It's called... Children learn what they live.

Good Luck & Congrats!!

Just thata you're concerned about this means that you will be a great Dad.

Answer 2

love your son like you do your daughter, don't you want your daughter to see you as a hero also???? You as a father need to love, support, and teach both of your children, and being a great dad will make you a hero in both of their eyes, I am going to tell you something and please take it to heart!! Boys grow up and away because when they are young they don't want to be like dad, but daddy's little girl will always call you daddy it isn't until later in life when your son becomes a father that he remembers what his dad did. good luck your question and feeling that way is not the way a father should feel about their children they should just feel love for both, with that attitude you will push your daughter away, shame on you!

Answer 3

The most influential person in a child's life is the same-sex parent.

The best thing you can do is be a man. Show your son what it is to take care of a family, work hard, and be a provider. Always love and respect his mother and sister, and he will learn to be respectful.

Be his coach, his advocate, his hero, his teacher, and sometimes a friend, but above all else be his parent.

If you do all of these things, he will never doubt that you love him and that he has an important place in your family.

Answer 4

I'm a father of one. (I'm using my wifes ID) I have a 2yr. old little boy. I'm 29years old and I can bet that you feel the same way I did. My dad was not there much for me when I grew up and I didn't want to be like him to my son. You already are you son's hero. When the little man arrives you need to be there for him all the time. Be there to wipe his tears when he cries, be there to watch his first step and get all excited for him when he does. Be there when he colors his first pic. all by him self. He will look up to you from day one and for the rest of his life he'll always be thinking "I hope I'm like my daddy when I get big" When he gets a bit older around 2 he's going to want to help you w/everything from doing the dishes to fixing thing's outside. I take my boy everywhere w/me and he love's it. He goes back and tells mommy everything we did together. Just be there for him man and never let him down and you will always be his hero and someday his childrens hero.Good Luck!

Answer 5

It's like talking to myself here...

I have a 4 year old daughter, and she is definitely a daddy's girl. I was always so focused on her that I was afraid of having another child. I thought I wouldn't feel the same, wouldn't be able to give the same amount of love... that's rubbish. I love both of them equally.

The most important thing to a child is to see you love his mother. Spend time with your family, not just one child. Do things with them daily, get in the floor, color pictures, play barbie's, be silly. These are the things your children will grow up loving about you and respecting about you. They won't care how much money you make, or how successful you are, if you don't have any time for them.

Answer 6

When I had my son, it was amazing how my focus changed from everything for me to everything for my son. He is now 12 and I still have the same focus. Now it's divided between him and my 6 yr old daughter. Keep that focus and you'll be their everything! Be there for them as much as possible. And never forget the unconditional love!

Answer 7

Patience and time. Do what you believe is best for both kids and treat them the way you should, let them be kids and before you know it , you will be their hero. Remember, in your kid's eyes, you are the only and greatest daddy in the world. Congrats and good luck.

Answer 8

Dont deprive your daughter but boys look up to boys. Spend as much time possible with him. He will love you forever!

Answer 9

love them be there for him and show him everything you know
he will look up to you.