I have been with my boyfriend for nearly three months, and i told him i was falling for him, he has told me, on more than one occasion that he is falling in love with me, but has not told me he loves me yet, and said he was not in love with me yet. Does this mean he has commitement issues? Or that secrectly he does not love me, is just saying this to keep me happy?
2007-03-15 03:41:54 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It probably means that commitment/love is very important and that he recognizes that it takes time.
2007-03-15 03:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by astralpen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things take time. If he says he's falling in love with you , then be happy. Take your time and enjoy each other. If you constantly worry about exactly where he stands on the I love you meter then you will ruin all the fun of falling in love. Maybe he has never felt this way before and is enjoying every minute and doesn't want to rush in to saying anything. 3 months is not too long, I'd worry after 3 years though.
Enjoy your relationship for what it is and let things happen naturally.
2007-03-15 10:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe to be in love, that you really have to know someone, not just on a straight out level but on a much deeper level, after 3 months you still are getting to know each other feelings are developing but not on such a deep level.
To be fair, I would give yourselfs more time and get to know each other much better, no doubt he has strong feelings but like a rose those feelings will grow and grow with care, effection and attention, until love blossoms at the end. You cant rush these things... let nature take its course and the outcome will be breath taking.
Good luck
2007-03-15 10:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my boyfriend for exactly the same amount of time and he has said pretty much the same to me. He has indicated he is "falling for me" but hasn't said he is in love with me.
Like you I felt a tiny bit of concern. Then I told myself that actions speak louder than words and the way he behaves indicates he is totally into me.
Ask yourself, does he act as though he loves you? If so I'm sure you have nothing to worry about.
I think men find it hard to say these things and maybe he is just waiting for the right time. If he is being dismissive with you then that would be a different story but it doesn't sound as though he is.
I wouldn't worry about it or even mention it. Just continue spending time with him and enjoying being with him and the rest will come naturally.
2007-03-15 10:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its a good sign. Falling in love is so much fun and if he said that he's falling for you but isn't in love yet then that means there's more fun to come! My boyfriend said exactly the same thing to me and we've been together for 4 years! Have fun and enjoy falling in love, its great x
2007-03-15 10:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just say 3 mo. is too early for him to be in love..would be for me. I'd have some feelings, but not love. Just take it slow and don't get ahead of yourselves. When the time is right it'll come out. Now if it's like 2 years from now and he's not telling you then I say there's commitment issues going on! But for now don't let your mind run away with you worrying o.k.? G.
2007-03-15 10:51:22 · answer #6 · answered by G=ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good sign that he has said he is falling in love with you, most guys find it very difficult to be open about their feelings. What do you know about his past girlfriends etc - maybe he has been hurt before and doesn't want to commit his full feelings to you before he is sure himself.
Give the guy some time..................
Have you told him that you love him by the way?? You said you were falling in love with him....
2007-03-15 11:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by ladyjojo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why rush things! It takes more than 3 months to fall in love. Never rush love it will come when it comes, just be happy as you are, you are with someone, who is open and honest and you should thank your lucky stars for that. Love grows over time and if in a year he doesnt then leave him
2007-03-15 11:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be very fond of you , enjoy your company & beginning to think you might just be the one, but not certain yet. Respect that, because it shows he is a careful man who takes relationships seriously. He can easily turn out to be the committed & dedicated lover than someone who tells you he loves you at the first meeting.
2007-03-15 10:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by MoiMoii 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres potential there! Take it easy, give it time to unfold.
True love is not like the movies, is not always love at first sight!
Even when it is love at first sight, love still develops and grows and changes over time.
Take a deep breath and enjoy the guys company.
What would be worse if he said he loved you but didn't mean it. He seems like a genuine person.
2007-03-15 10:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by bluemountainsbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nowadays people fall in and out of love all too easily and forget that it cannot be switched off like a light bulb.He says he is falling in love with you and that takes time,one day he will tell you he loves you but for now keep doing what it is that you are doing as this is what is making him fall in love with you.Don`t push him into saying anything or this could cause him to doubt your trust..................good luck.
2007-03-15 10:52:33 · answer #11 · answered by sarah y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋