PLEASE HELP ME i'm REALLY UPSET!!!!?

Question

i know i wrote this before but I'm not crying. I can barley type I'm so upset! I hate this i don't know what to do!! I'm really sorry this is so long!!

Hello! My name is Jackie and I'm 18. I'm a senior in high school and i had posted this earlier on my sister's yahoo answer's name. I really needed help with something! I realized after i wrote it that they way i had written it was a bit immature so i will start over again. I apologize for the length of this.

I am graduating this year and i feel like this is the year i have found my "best friends" Lets call this person "friend 1" I found her true colors. Sadly enough there colors are black and not a pretty color like orange or green. I am looking for advice as to what i should do in this situation. I hope that someone will be able to help me understand what's going on. Thanks a million :-)

Person number one and i have known eachother now since the 4th grade. In the 7th grade her and another one of her best friends got into a really really big argument. Since then she has not invited me to any parties or anything. This year really drew the line for me.I wrote a bit of a "mean" note and was a bit immature about it stating how i felt. Stating that i felt she was more worried about popularity and her so called friends then to worry about if she is hurting people. See the reason i wrote this "note" on the internet was because she threw two BIG house parties. She told me to my face that was was having these parties but felt it was best if i did not come. She said she did not want any "drama" and that i do not know many of the people on the track team. I ran track myself for a year and we all know that was a lie. When i really asked her for the truth about the whole situation this was her response

"I told u the god d*mn reason... maybe i thought u'd be uncomfortable... i still remember during 4th grade at Julie's birthday part you were down in her basement CRYING because you fet like everyone hated ... well u know who came down there to see if you were okay... oh yea! that was ME!!!!!!!!! i tried to ******* help you... MAYBE i thought u'd be uncomfortable with the people at the party and i didn't want u to get upsest and start crying again... if u actually think of it... i was trying to help you! so i'm sorry if u think i hate you but i don't... you just take things the wrong way and your going to tell ME to grow up! wow.... let's just listen to again and see who should grow up and try and learn what people are trying to do to help you. and HELL people go behind my back all the time... that's life... it WILL happen so sorry.”

i then asked her for her "real" reason and she went on to tell me the following

alright u want the truth???? the truth is that i felt you were out of place and i didn't know if you would fit in with the people at my party... hell u dont' even KNOW any of my xc friends except for kat but that's one out of like 10. and my other friends i dont' know if u'r friends and that group of friends that i have we have the same exact people at our parties it's not like it's anything new all of their parties i'm mostly invited to and my party they are invited to so i'm sorry if i thought it would be weird. oh and that's the other thing i DIDN'T tell you that i was having a party because i didn't want to hurt u'r feelings but i should have known it would come out sooner or later... and how many times do i have to say sorry beacuse i will say that i am sorry i told you i was sorry like a hundred times so i don't know what you want me to say.”

i realized that what i had written about her on the internet was a bit "immature" and i apologized to her for it. But what i said i felt was not really "mean" just justifying how i felt. I realized i could have done it in a better manner and i wish i had.

I then asked her why she invited my best friend and not me! My best friend has no association with track and one of her parties had NOBODY from the track team at it. She told me it was because my other best friend "knew" the people
this is what she said to me today

she then wrote me another note stating more information i guess you could say and on how she felt here is what she said....

well yea it hurt my feelings... and i don't think that you really cared... i quote "that's right... now i'm naming names and i don't give a **** right now... so **** you Ale**s." that sort of hurt me. and about prom you can always go... u'll find someone to sit with-you don't want to miss senior prom just beacuse of a seat... and i would have asked you to come but like i said before i didn't know how people would handle it and i didn't even know i was having a party until i came back from hawaii which was like sat and i decided to actually have one on monday and the party was on friday so it was a spur of the moment thing

... and i'm sorry that you don't understand my actions but i don't know what to say. i didnt' know how the situation would turn out... and not just you... if you said that everything would be fine i'd be okay with that but i don't know what my other friends would be like. and yes it was mean for me to do that to you and i didn't realize it at the time but seriously i didn't want any drama or people's feelings to be hurt somehow because of it... yea ironic that i didn't invite you and i hurt u'r feelings when i was trying to do the complete opposite so i'm sorry too.

PLEASE HELP ME PLEASE!!
should i forgive her and be friends with her or just move on with my life? PLEASE HELP ME!

Answer 1

Not to be rude, but gheez...that was alot and I did not finish it.....but from the first couple of pargraphs, I think you need to seriously cut her off...NOW!! You will be graduating and going to college and meeting more people. And for her to result to talking about a party that was back in the 4th grade....Is she serious? I would cut her azz off and be done with her.......Tell her to BEAT IT!!!!

Answer 2

For pete's sake honey, your 18 years old! Ppl in our lives come and go, u need to ask yourself if that is the kind of person you really want as your friend. As for the drama...? She should save it, why don't you throw your own parties? Invite people that care, wanna have a good time, and respect you. Don't go kissin' anyone's b-u-t-t cuz u don't need her. She's obviously getting to u if u get angry everytime she throws a party.

People may seem to be your friends and seeing as how u've already seen her true colors, she ain't gonna change, not for you, not for anyone else...not in this century at least. What you need to do is really get to know someone before u bestow upon them the great title of bff. Really don't let her hurt your feelings, just brush it off, call it quits on her. I had a "best friend" for years until she started to diss my other new friends i made. She showed me her true colors and now, i'm very happy with my new friends.

You don't need parties, or ppl like her to make u feel good, only YOU can make YOU feel good! But do a self-evaluation of what you really want in a friend, and if they don't measure up, simply give 'em the boot, or just remain friends but on a certain level. Your 18!!! Sorry to say but you have way more drama to deal with other than some prissy girl dat doesn't know the true value of friendship, I hope this helped u, girl, and take care!

Answer 3

okay. honestly, i really don't understand why you're even bothering with her. she is clearly NOT A GOOD FRIEND. she doesn't realize that she's hurting you, and when you tell her, she gets mad instead that YOU don't understand that she was actually trying to help you! i wouldn't consider that as help at all! she is being very immature. she is obviously not worth your time. move on and find some new, TRUE friends.

Answer 4

wow. oh god the highschool drama.

if this we're my "friend" id say fcuk it and move on. someone who treaded you like this doesnt deserve to be your friend again. even if they appologize, accept their apology but dont stay friends anymore because who knows what "friend number one" would do again and what "friend number one" is capiable of. its easier and probally safer to move on and not care anymore.
if she was really a good friend, none of this would of happened. i would say go back to being friends if she didnt say that much! she could of written a book with all the mean things she said about you. thats no way to be treated.
move on!!& good luck.

sorry for all thats happened :/

Answer 5

it seems that you are bending over backwards to be this girls friend and she is trying to tell you in a not so sutle way that she doesnt want anything to do with you.when a person has to come up with all these excuses and lies then its not worth it.i would move on and just chalk this up to one of lives experiences.nothing is worth that much headache and trouble.

Answer 6

Let them go. Too much hassle and stress.

Answer 7

i think if u write so much in detail , no 1 would answer ur Q's

Answer 8

i think you should forgive her.because forgivin someone is the right thing to do...plus..its not good to hold grudges.