Don't get me wrong. I like children. However, it seems to me that life is hard and often painful. Also, you've got to admit that we live in a pretty screwed-up world. And not only that, but life seems pointless to me, since you're only born to eventually die. Why would anyone want to put another person through all that?
2007-03-15 03:32:09 · 7 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I know what you mean, sort of. I don't have kids. I wonder whether I am missing something, or if I am shirking some sort of societal responsibility.
I did not enjoy childhood. I didn't want to put anyone else through that. I guess I didn't want to have a child unless life was perfect, and I could keep the child from any pain or harm. Plus, my Dad had many shortcomings and I guess I was afraid of having similar problems and inflicting them on MY kids.
I'm sure people will tell you of the great joys of parenthood. I have no reason to doubt them! I guess anything could happen in the future; maybe it's not too late. I feel like mentally I have banished many of my "demons" but physically I'm starting to fade. LOL! :)
2007-03-15 05:39:54 · answer #1 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was born during "the long, hot Summer" in the US, when there were riots, shootings, equal rights battles, etc. I looked at my mother one day and asked her how she could have had me at such a time. I believe her answer was something along the lines of "why not?"
My son was born 11 months after 9/11. My daughter was born in the middle of the Iraq war. Life goes on no matter what is happening around the world or next door.
Now kids are not for everyone. I know many singles and couples who are very happy not having children. I also know some people who have 6 and want more. I know people who started when they left high school, and I know some who waited until they were 40.
Having children has become a personal preference. Don't not have them because of the world, but don't have them because you think it's expected of you either. Make up your own decision, talk it over with your Significant Other (if applicable).
2007-03-15 10:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by taliswoman 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well... my son and daughter both came without planning for them...
Before they were born--I felt like you did--there was no point. But, after my first son was born--my purpose was so immediate. Now, I know that isn't a good reason to have kids (to feel needed). That is simply the effect it had on me.
And, I suppose if you want to look at the big picture.. There are good and bad people. If good people think like you and don't raise good children--then what will happen. I know that isn't going to happen--But, what I'm trying to say is, your child may make someone's miserable life better--and a happy pointless life is much better than a miserable pointless life.
And, life can be very enjoyable. My son is giggling all the time--I know he doesn't understand the ways of the world yet--but he certainly brings joy and laughter to my husband and my (along with many others') life. If lyour child has a sunny disposition--then life won't seem so sad. Some people are genuinely glad to be alive.
2007-03-15 10:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Joy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the pregnancy is planned for and the couple is very loving and has been saving for diapers etc. then yes having kids would be quite a blessing. However on the flip side a teenage girl involved with an older man taking advantage of her mixed up emotions and knocking her up is horrible and a child born out of that is in for a terrible existence. This is why I'm pro-choice. Having no biological children of my own, (I have 2 stepdaughters) I watch countless number of kids running around like they're straight out of a third world country. There is too much procreation going on in the bottom 5% income bracket in this country and I'm curious about what the ratio is for children born in/out of wedlock. One could argue that an impoverished kid could make something of himself but the cold truth is there and its a shame some are so hellbent on pro-life making a test-tube heroin addicted bastard actually possible in this country...
2007-03-15 10:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by Sleepyriggles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right. Personally, I wish I wasn't born. I am terrified of dying; I am terrified of what my eternal existence - if there is one - will be like.
2007-03-15 10:49:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ask any mom, they never regret their children
2007-03-15 10:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you believed in God and heaven and hell, then maybe you wouldnt have to ask this question
2007-03-15 11:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by miz_chikie 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋