I had a good freind for many years. The two of us always flirted but kept it clean until college. We both did some things we regret, and in the process she broke my heart. We stopped speaking about a year ago but still keep tabs through a mutual freind.
Fast foward to today- she starts sending texts messages that her "number has changed", "we haven't talked in a while" and "would you like to come to my wedding?". Now I've known about her engagement for nearly a year now- she met her fiance right after we split. So why come at me with a text message now? Is this genuiwne or is she up to no good again? I can't help but be a little suspicious that she calls out of the blue like this, conicidently after I inform our mutual freind that my current girlfreind and I have been on the rocks lately...
2007-03-15 03:30:58 · 8 answers · asked by TooMuch 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it's not a good idea to contact her. If you haven't spoken since the break off then there really is no reason to talk to her now. It sounds like she wants to see your reaction to the wedding and get an ego boost from it. She probably also wants to see if she can get you to care for her again and get you to chase after her, trying to get her to not get married.blah blah blah. She sounds like someone who played games with you in the past and is trying to do it again now.
2007-03-15 11:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy Kim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since the relationship ended on not so great terms then you really have no obligation to attend her wedding or even answer her text messages. I would press delete. Let your gut instincts be your guide. If it was bad then, it is bad now.
If you want to respond to her, the polite thing to do would be to congratulate her on the wedding and wish her all the best but politely decline the invite. I would bring no mention up about the telephone number
2007-03-15 03:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In maximum circumstances I say that a guy you're relationship has no precise to dictate your persons, it is no longer suitable if he likes them or no longer. My one exception, ex's, or perhaps it is arguable reckoning on how heavily your relationship is. You, my expensive, are engaged... i might call that an particularly extreme relationship. As such, you in basic terms have room for one guy on your existence (in spite of ways your ex dealt with you in the previous yet i think of you have some insecutity or self-worth themes to be "perfect acquaintances" with a individual who for sure has 0 appreciate for you). by persevering with to communicate on your ex you're telling your fiance that he's not significant to you. except you have young ones, this guy may be the main extreme individual in you're existence. supply up the ex (and locate some self appreciate mutually as you're at it).
2016-10-02 04:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by kosmoski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would stay clear from that. It sounds way too suspicious and coincidential for it be coming from nowhere. She's probably up to no good again. You should think about her fiancee too and how he would feel is he knew she was trying to contact you. Both of you had a thing going on back in your college years so that may make her fiancee feel a little uncomfortable and he may be suspicious of you two.
2007-03-15 03:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i do feel that since she's about to settle down, she wanted to get more out of her single life!
definitely, tying the knot is the end of it all. end of flirting with no strings attached...
why not take the plunge and see how bad can it get.. ;-)
she's looking for attention and she sees you as a vulnerable subject that can sate her fantasies... before she enters the world of forced monogamy.
2007-03-15 03:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by flaunt it! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's rubbing it in your face. Steer clear off her path.
Good luck
2007-03-15 03:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go with your gut feeling.... it feel fishy it prob is and best you just lose "contact" now then get involved into whatever she is brewing..... seriously, I might even just change my phone number and not tell her or anyone who knows her...
2007-03-15 03:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her.. don't ask your friend about her anymore.. do what ever you have to cut her out your picture..
2007-03-15 03:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋