My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years now. we started dating when we were 17. we really messed around on each other in highschool (he was the BIGGEST flirt) and in college we vowed to be loyal, faithfull, and honest. We just couldn't leave each other. 2 years later, he starts messing around again (keep in mind that he never slept with her) and all my trust issues are back. that was last year and to this day I constantly check his phone bill and call any suspicious numbers. I don't trust him very much, but I love him to death. He is an amazing person. we have so much in common and we love being together more than anything. I just wish he was more honest and I wish I could trust him more. Is it possible to regain the trust or am i only hurting myself.. and do men really change?
2007-03-15 03:27:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your dude isn't appreciating you..
he's way too immature..
though probaby you not sleeping with him yet is the reason he's messing around.. it's a guy thing..
a relationship is built on trust.. again.. i will say this..
How could there be a relationship without honesty?
How could you love without being true?
you are only hurting yourself.. you deserve better than that..
dump your guy.. there are a lot of fish in the sea..
well as the song goes..
fool me once.. shame on you..
fool me twice.. shame on me..
it's time to move on..
2007-03-15 03:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by crushmybones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let me ask you this when you mean honest do you mean you want him to come out and be like Baby I'm missing around on you right now I just wanna be honest???? Truthfully I don't think you can handle that....nobody could....Second, do you not see a pattern happening every chance his gets he does it and your not innocent either you cheated and let him cheat on you and put up with it all these years.....Not only is there no trust but no respect for each other....And you guys will either stay together and be miserable...or break up move on and be happy....these relationship is not healthy for you.....Good luck
2007-03-15 10:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Miss. Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can regain your trust again but it will take time and a lot of effort on his part, and yours. My husband and I went through the same thing, and if I wasn't married to him and had our little boy, I would've left him and never came back. You have the option though and it's totally up to you. If the good out ways the bad, work on trusting him again. Good luck what ever you do.
2007-03-15 10:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya..without trust , survival is indefinite.But love is more sensitive than trust.Because Once we doubt over the true love or missing affection,its really horrible.I think u r really loving him, other end no reciprocation. Love means both being loved. It is not merely exchanging of words. Feelings must be come out from the true heart.Then only love can be grown.
2007-03-15 10:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by Ramkumar G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me"
Twice now he has messed around on you, you can't trust him, you are suspicious of his activities, you find it hard to take him at his word.......you love him.......dose he love you? and if he dose.......why is he messing around on you?
It is possible to regain trust, but that all falls on him, he has to work to regain your trust, he has to put forth an tremendous effort. I would say kick him to the curb, and let him get his head on straight. If he dose love you, and he wants to earn your trust back, it is going to take some time, during that time, you can't be together, or that seed of doubt you have will grow and grow till it tears you two apart. Send him on his way, with the thought that if his feelings are true, he will mend his ways, earn your trust back, and put forth more effort.
Things you need to know is dose he want to earn back your trust?......actions speak louder than words. & and can he show you that he can be trustworthy........because without trust, a relationship will not survive.
2007-03-15 11:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person doesn't change without a great deal of effort. Mistrust only gets worse. You need to be in a relationship where you can trust the other person.
2007-03-15 10:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is broken down into may other parts. it can't survive, without all the parts incuded. Trust is a major part of keeping it all together. NO! You can't. But you need to make that choice.
2007-03-15 10:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is a two-way street. if it's true love you shouldn't have to demand trust-it would automatically be there
2007-03-15 10:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by dƒ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋