My boyfriend was acting a little different for a week or so and finally I got it out of him what was wrong. He felt that we were moving to fast when we are so young. He is 22, which isn't the youngest age to be dating. He also thinks we have been fighting to much lately, but we mainly fought because he was acting differently. He is scared we are just not compatible, but says he still loves me. Anyways, he wants time to think about things, which includes us not hangout really anymore, except when we go work out the odd time, etc. Should I wait for him, because I really do miss him, or should I move on?
2007-03-15 03:16:16 · 10 answers · asked by soccerchick14 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When a man says he needs to take a break, he means that he is dumping you, but he is afraid to use those words. He will use excuses and ignoring you and hope that you will just disappear. I have seen it a lot, and it is common way for both men and women to end their relationships. The worst part is that when you move on, they will blame you for ending the relationship.
If you really do still have feelings for him then you should confront him. Don't be gentle or kind about it. Demand an answer from him. Tell him that he has been making you sit and wait until he feels like calling you. Tell him that you have waited long enough.
2007-03-15 04:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on. Its kind of a nice way of breaking up with you but then again, not so nice. Its easy for him but gives you hope that you will get back together. I say he is wanting to do something that he cant do when he is with you...hate to say it, but maybe he is intrested in another girl or just wants to party...like most 22 year old boys.
It hurts like heck but here is what you gotta do, MOVE FORWARD and let him see what he is missing. You know what helped me, (the same thing kinda happened to me) I went to target and was looking for a self help book...LOL, I know, I would have done anything in the world not to feel that way...and I HATE reading! but I bought 2 books... 'its called a break up cause its broken' and 'He's just not that into you' they are fun books, even if you hate reading like I do, they will keep you interested cause you will relate to alot of it. I finished BOTH within a week. He even came back, but I was strong enough to let him go...its a good feeling, to be stronger than your weakness.
He may have broke your heart, but DO NOT roll over and die!
2007-03-15 10:28:42 · answer #2 · answered by blah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience, when A guy wants to go on a break, he wants to find a reason to do "things" that he won't technically get in trouble for now. I had a bf that said the same tihng before, and that was his excuse to run around and go on a "spree" so to speak. I hope this isn't the case with you, but I wouldn't get my hopes up. I would just move on to someone more worthy of you. I'm sure you deserve better.
2007-03-15 10:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ambah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in that situation before...I would just continue on with your life. I wouldn't wait for him because you may be waiting for a long time. So just move on and see what happens. He may realize he made a mistake and come back to you. If he doesn''t than it wasn't meant to be.
2007-03-15 10:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, you should give him space otherwise he`ll get bored of you, all that complains are just "reasons" to not hurt you, I`ve had that situation and I moved on believing I would forget him, and guess what? I couldn`t, so sometimes it`s good you can prove yourself you really love him, I`m about to call that guy again :) good luck!!
2007-03-15 10:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Madison♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't sit around waiting for him to make up his mind. Go live your life as if you're not with him. He's the one who wants time to think but that doesn't mean that you have to put your life on hold.
2007-03-15 10:21:20 · answer #6 · answered by Diet_smartie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on, girl.
He expects you to sit around and wait while he figures out what he wants. That's just not fair.
You deserve a guy that KNOWS that you're exactly what he wants and treats you that way.
2007-03-15 10:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on. Let him mature and grow up some. Maybe in a few years he will come back. But right now he is too immature.
2007-03-15 10:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by megan261980 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's putting the distance between you. Don't wait. Move on. He may grow up eventually, but I doubt it.
2007-03-15 10:18:58 · answer #9 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes because it means you guys were getting serious and he got scared so before you get to serious he wnts to date around.
2007-03-15 10:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋