I am 23 I just moved out of my moms house into my own apartment. I have only been there 4 days when I get home after about a hour I start crying and cant stop. I dont know why. I ve been wanting to move out for years. Why is something that I wanted and thought would make me happy making me feel so depressed?
2007-03-15 03:02:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Your not depressed, your just frightened. It is hard to leave home for the first time at ANY age, especially if you had good caring parents who always made sure that you were fed, watered, cleaned and well presented. Now you have to do this for yourself without looking to someone else for their approval. You are now responsible for YOU. This feeling will pass eventually, ask a couple of work mates over for a drink or a light supper, give yourself something to do in the evenings instead of feeling sorry for yourself.... OR... bathe yourself in luxury, nice bubble bath, nice wine, candles and soft music in the background. Get to know yourself and what you are capable of. We have all been there at some time, and most of us have come out the other side non the worse for the experience....Good luck
2007-03-15 03:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by gillsnest35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your anxiety. You're probably just overwhelmed at the thought of not living at home anymore. I wetn through it two years ago. Except mine was so bad I had to move back home and get better. My only advice for you is to not let it get the best of you. If you feel like you're strong enough to be able to control your emotions, keep staying at your own place for a while and se ehow it suits you. If it doesn't go away after a while, look for a good therapist and talk out you problems and frustrations. It helps a lot (believe me). I loved the idea of moving out on my own, and because I moved so far away from my family, friends and boyfriend, I couldn't take it. I felt so lonely and hated living on my own. Do what's in your heart, it can't do you no harm.
2007-03-19 09:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by Brig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now this a bit deeper look into the problem you brought forward...
You said u've been wanting to move out for years...wanting because, u've seen other people move out at your age for various reasons, or of personal reasons -- because you want your personal space...your freedom etc. Now, in a lot of scenarios, reasons like the one mentioned above are often intertwined with conflicting ideas and personal beliefs with parents or siblings and moving out and turning your back doesn't quiet workout in your favor. So just ask yourself simple qestions...as to what was your motivation...your driving force to move out of the house. Often people do have some idea about thier personality by your age, so you should ask, are you the type of person who would confront these problems upfront with anyone, or keep it within him. Either way, resolvement through interaction with your root problems is a good way to start off.
But if you realize your moving out has nothing to do with conflictions then its time to reassess. Backtrack yourself, as absurd as it might sound, before you sleep, try to go back to the same feeling you had right before you started crying, and you will hopefully figure out your problem. Crying the way you explain it in this situation, is a very emotional one, often confusing yourself...questioning yourself is probably one of the best ideas at this time for you. In many cases depending on your personality, crying can be a sign of relase, of a sigh when you get when its all over, of missing the past, realization etc. You, hopefully will have some idea after you read this as to where to go from here...what to do....hopefully it helps.
gluck
2007-03-15 11:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by I Hsuya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever lived away from home before?
If not, then you're just experiencing the homesickness and frustration normal to someone when they move out on their own for the first time.
You need some time to develop your confidence and realize that, yes, you CAN live on your own. If this persists, you should see a therapist about your self doubt and fear, but give it a few weeks, and keep pushing yourself to try new things.
2007-03-15 10:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon it looks as if you felt out of the nest and are feeling unprotected. You could try the following (if it is feasible). Phone every day or every two days. Come back to mom on Wednesdays. But at your location : make new friends: join aerobics groups, tennis clubs or whatever. You will make new friends and before you know it you will only be phoning on her birthday and coming home for Thanksgiving (just kidding) Good luck honey.
2007-03-15 10:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. House 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same age when I moved out of my parents' place (an act of self-defense: I didn't really feel ready). You probably are missing your mom and her comfortable routines.
Why don't you call her and invite her over for coffee and cookies or something similar? If she's like my mother, it would probably tickle her pink.
If that doesn't work, there is always counselling. But you'll probably feel better after you get more used to being on your own.
Good luck!
2007-03-15 10:11:03 · answer #6 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need some time to get used to being by yourself. I live alone, and if I go to stay at my parents' house for a few days, like at Christmas, I often go through the same thing for a day or so when I get back, it's normal. Talk to your friends, tell them that you need to have them around a bit. It's great having your own space but it's important to know that your friends are there if you need them.
2007-03-15 10:07:08 · answer #7 · answered by Funky Little Spacegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think your crying has to do with your closeness to your mom. You see, our parents are our parents...no matter who they are! Perhaps you are just experiencing a sudden loneliness being alone in a new home. You are just missing home and especially your mom. There are people like that -but it will just be within a few days. It will pass. You need time to acquaint yourself in your new home. Do something to make your new apartment cozy and try to enjoy being in a new home of your own. Your new home is a gift to yourself!
2007-03-15 10:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by Binnus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there ! I did the same- years ago. After about six months it got easier. I finally quit calling my mom twice a day and going over there every other day just to sit in the kitchen ! You'll get past it. Don't give up- you need to make it own your own- it'll be worth it on down the line.
2007-03-15 10:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by Tex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're perfectly normal, lonely, scared, and homesick. Turn the tv or radio on to keep you company and find something to occupy your mind. You've just got to have some time to adjust to being alone...I was a cross country trucker and used to get that feeling every time I left home after days off.
2007-03-15 10:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by J P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋