He never calls to say thank you whenever I send him a present of flowers for his birthday.
My friends tell me he cares for me (I believe that too) but he is just impolite. He does not think it is necessary to say thank you.
What do you think?
Is it or isn't it necessary to call back?
2007-03-15 03:00:04 · 9 answers · asked by inotherwords 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think he just doesn't know any better. If you really love him, you'll find subtle yet effective ways the proper way of doing things.
Say, for example,. he receives a gift from an Aunt. That's a great opportunity to suggest to him that he write a thank-you note or at least call her. If he resists, you can take THAT opportunity to tell him that it's only proper courtesy that he acknowledge a gift. And leave the fact that you gave him flowers out of it - for now. If he starts thanking everybody BUT you, then it's time to address that problem.
Stop fishing for thank-yous for your gifts. It's selfish and it diminishes the generosity of your gift. Like I said, it you want to change this behavior, remove yourself from the equation.
2007-03-15 03:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're sending flowers.....to a dude?
He should thank you for gifts, in this age of cell phones on the day of, But to be honest, I would be weirded out by getting flowers, and I'd be worried thanking you for them would encourage it to happen again.
2007-03-15 11:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by RED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People want to receive a thank you after putting their thought, time and MONEY into something. Not being able to pick up the phone to just say "I appreciate your present" is just not acceptable.
Stop sending him things if he can't thank you.
Does he send you things?
2007-03-15 11:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by katx0x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should tell you "thank you". Maybe you should sit down with him and find out exactly how he feels about you. Tell him that it hurts your feelings and that it makes you feel unappreciated. If he shrugs it off, then move on, he is not the one for you.
Most guys (men) are self absorbed and clueless. Talk to him first, make your decision from there.
Good luck!
2007-03-15 11:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by ladonnasleather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should, at the least, let you know he got them. You could say to him, "Did you get the (item) I sent you? I want to be sure the XYZ store got it out." It may eventually hit him that this is the nice thing to do, even if he can't spit out the words thank you. Good luck.
2007-03-15 16:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by Book0602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have said something to him regarding the issue and he still REFUSES to say thank you, your options are to stop sending him gifts or accept that this is how he is.
2007-03-15 10:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he knows he's got you rapped and is taking advantage of that.He should call and say thank you for any nice thing you do for him.Some guys just don't have a clue though.
2007-03-15 10:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by mygrandparentsrthebestintheworld 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is necessary to call back to say thanks.
2007-03-15 12:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he was any kind of self respecting man he would call and say thanks
2007-03-15 10:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by Howdy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋