how to deal with your life without a dad?

Question

he left us for another woman. it seems so strange bcoz it's apparent my dad doesn't love the lewd woman. but my real problem is, how to continue living without a father figure? i really miss my papa so much. pls help me with my dilemma.

Answer 1

This is not something you have control over,you only have to understand that your father caused this situation by his choices and there isn't much you can do but you certainly have learned what people are capable of.Even the people we love.All of life is a journey and all along the way you will meet people who will impact your life in many ways,how you perceive these experiences and how you allow them to effect you will become your choices.We all will make choices in our life that will bring us joys or sorrows,but we must learn from each choice and consequence.You will go on with your life and interact with your parents even if you have to interact with your father's new paramour, there will always be lessons in each movement of journey,Enjoy what new people are entering your life for how ever long or short,observe all the interactions between your family and see where this new road will take you.All things change and change is always for the better whether we know why or not,God's will will be done.

Answer 2

You just need to keep connected to him. Make sure you have a picture next to your bed. You can also call him each evening before bed and go over your day or whatever. You can send him cards or pictures of you and your friends. Your father may realize his mistake and return, or you may be mistaken and this is really what will make him happy. Either way, you need to continue your life and create a new relationship with him. Ask him to take you to lunch once a week or so so that you two can maintain a strong bond. When you feel really sad about the situation, put on a put of hot tea, run a hot bath and grab a good book and go soak in the tub and read until you feel better. To take your mind off of the situation during the day you could join a reading club (at the local library or book store) an athletic group (volleyballis a lot of fun) or volunteer at the animal shelter or hospital/hospice. You could see if the local library needs volunteers to read to the blind. If you do good for others you will feel better about yourself and your life and you may see that your life is so much better than the ones you are serving. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

He left your MOTHER not you. Been there, done that. To assume that there wasn't any problems in the marriage and that it's all dad's fault isn't very objective nor smart. One, don't let mom use you as a weapon against your father. She isn't supposed too and it's just plain wrong. If she said that your dad left "us", she's playing games with your head. There's ALWAYS two sides to a story. TALK to your dad...

Answer 4

I am sorry to hear that your dad left. Dont worry, you will still get to see him. You can visit and spend time together. You will miss his but you will survive. You can call him and maybe even get to go stay with him on weekends.

My father died a couple years ago. I dont have a daddy at all anymore. But I still have to go on with my life. I know he wouldb't want me to be miserable because he is gone.

Good luck to you. Be strong. Everything will work out for you. Again, I am sorry.

Answer 5

dont take this the wrong was but you have come this far without him what makes you need one now, my niece was brought up without a father she is 14 now and a few months back she asked the same question about her dad so i asked her what did she wont her dad for all she could say was so he can take me the cinema like the other kids , told her she had us for that she wanted her father for the wrong reasons , you no dear life goes on and i dont mean that horrible .

Answer 6

I went thru the same thing.. my father has a new wife and they already have two kids of their own - there really isnt much to do if he wants nothing to do with you - if you still want to be in his life call him daily, meet up with him whenever you both have time, go visit more often - just make time for yourselves to be together so you still have him in your life

Answer 7

If he really loves you, he will make an effort to spend as much time with you as possible...sometimes you see more of him...if not, then focus on your mother and friends etc..My dad died when I was 12, so I pretty much grew up w/o him....you do the best you can, with WHO you have in your life....

Answer 8

I know what your goimg through the diofference is My dad didn't leave us I was taken from my mom and dad. I was thrown into fostercare and I was really upset. but now I realize that it was for the best. So the only advice I can give is try to hang in there. I hope everything works out for you. Please don't listen to INDIAN he doesn't know what he's talking about. Trust me I know he's my brother.

Answer 9

well i know where you comeing from,, my dad he did when i was 1o,,,,for a while i hated the world, an seen no matture what i did ,thing got worse, i findly, look my uncle up, an started spend time with him,, true he was not a dad, but,, he did help fill the spot,,,,, but you got to rember,, all men are dad,,... maybe not you blood dad, but . i sure you look you can find some one to help you threw life,,,i my sel am a dad to 6, of my own kids, but i got like 20 call me dad,,,,, some on the web, now started calling me dad,, , for i alway their to listion to them,,,,,so you see, adad only a name,, but a man they stand up, an love kids an are their for them is a true dad,,

Answer 10

I did it. It will just make you a stronger person. In the long run when you have kids you will become the dad you never had. I am so sorry this has happened to you.