This has happenned ever since the youngest was about 2, he is very tactile and loves dolls/ponies with long hair. He also plays with cars and train sets etc but his first choice of activity is always a bit girly. Sensible replies only please!
2007-03-15 02:44:53 · 32 answers · asked by catrina 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Don't worry about it! Playing with dolls or hair does mean a person is gay. And even if they are...so what?! What big difference does it make anyway, will you love them any less? Maybe their parents have given them these toys to play with on purpose. Who says that boys can only play with fire trucks and girls can only play with dolls?
2007-03-15 02:52:56 · answer #1 · answered by poohb2878 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
An attraction to dolls is not nececarrily an indication of homosexuality. Often, when a little boy plays with dolls it is because he has a tactile personality. When you think about it, cars and trucks are metal/plastic and not at all soft, but dolls have clothes and hair and are "cuddly".
I have a cousin who carried around a doll from the time that he was 2 until he started school. At first, his dad wanted to take the doll away from him, but the mother wouldn't let him. Despite his affection for dolls, my cousin grew up to be a heterosexual. The only thing that we can deduce about his obsession with his doll is that it made him an affectionate father. I have not met a man who treats his children better than my cousin does.
So don't freak out. Just let them play with the toys they want to play with. They'll be fine.
2007-03-15 02:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by SpawnOfSpock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have worked with children for 12 years and my boys will get dolls and 'girls' things if they want them. Boys like pretty soft things the same as girls do, they dont know that dolls are girly they are just going with there instinct to play and investigate textures, colors etc. Many of the boys i cared for loved dressing up and playing with the dollies, the only time there was any problem was when parents expressed they didnt want there children playin with these things. All this done was confuse them and make them feel they were doing something wrong, they would sneak off and play them in private which was sad. I have never seen a problem with it, boys grow up and start mixing with other boys at school when they get to the 'i hate girls' stage and soon grow out of dolls and ponies. Leave them to express themselves, there is no harm x
2007-03-15 02:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by British*Bird 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's no big deal. I'm not trying to be disrespectful, but would you be questioning if 2 nieces played with cars and train more than dolls?
My first was in day care with all girls and was into dolls and dress-up for quite a while. Now at 9 he mainly plays with 'boy' toys, but he loves playing "hair salon" and brushes his sisters and my hair and 'styles' with ponies and barrettes.
My youngest plays dress up quite often with his sister. It's just what they like doing. If you do not make a big deal of it, it won't be a big deal for them. Unless it is dangerous, the more you tell a kid not to do something, the more they want to do it. I think of it this way - what difference will it make in 10 or 20 years? If not much (or not at all) then I let it go.
2007-03-15 02:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by g-lady 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There was a boy in my daughter's nursery. He wore pink princess dresses into nursery. Women think differently than men. Maybe boys that go through a 'girlie' stage are inclined to thinking more like women when they grow up i sometimes think. Can't be a bad thing i suppose.
The boy has started primary now. His dad was never worried about it. I wouldn't worry. Let him enjoy the innocence and uncomplicatedness of life for as long as possible. Too many adults that want the best for kids only do more damage than good in the long run i reckon.
2007-03-15 18:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by Part Time Cynic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry it is very normal indeed , my nephew had a doll and pram when he was 3 , he loved playing with them but now at 12 he is into yu gi oh and sonic the hedgehog lol . Your nephews will grow out of this not that its a problem , they are just making the most of things .. Good for them .
2007-03-15 09:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly fine, I remember one of my eldest sons aunties kicking up a right fuss because I was goint to buy him a dolls house as he always loved them at playgroups! We didn't and it was a stupid mistake and I regret ever giving in to the silly moo! He is 14 and into all boys things but is also very arty! He would still love one of those grown up dolls houses I expect, but top of his list are all boys things!
My other son used to have a childs buggy to push dolls in and he loved it!
They are both fine and I would just let the kids play with what they enjoy playing with! He is probably just going to grow up to be a very loving kind man!
2007-03-15 09:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is adults who decide what is a "girl toy" and what is a "boy toy". Kids just like to play with toys, period. If a little girl likes blocks and trucks we don't all start worrying that she is a lesbian at age 3! Let the boys play and use their imaginations. Offer a wide variety of toys. Don't make them feel weird about their choices. Children this age have ever evolving interests. These boys will grow up to be straight or gay, and nothing (and I mean NOTHING) you do now will change that.
2007-03-15 02:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by bugged to death 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my eldest son used to love everything "girly" he had a toy iron, ironing board, pram with numerous dolls, tea set, kitchen you name it he had it, i did worry at the time as i was a first time mom but he just wasnt into guns and cars etc, he is now 18 and training to be a hair stylist he has loads of male and female friends and the girls love him! he is also great around the house and i swear its from the years of make believe as a child, he grew out of it as soon as he was at school and got into footie and music etc, i my next 2 sons were complete opposite and were boys through and through, my youngest though is forever dressing up in my bras etc and my daughters skirts, he will parade around the house quite comfortably,(thata when he isnt running around starkers,) just leave them too it they will be fine and itss all educational for them
2007-03-15 02:58:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I think it's o.k. for them to play with dolls. They don't know better. Their minds haven't been exposed to what society has set up for us. Since the 5 yr old understands a little already and should be going or starting school already; I believe you should let him know the difference already. That dolls are for toddlers and girls.
If you ask me...I used to play with cars with my brother...and I turned up fine...lol....Well like society expects. My brother would play Barbies with me and he also turned up fine.
Don't worry it's just a phase kids go through....Like when they think girls are gross!!.....lol
2007-03-15 02:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by PiZzA 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋