trying to make a long story short been with my boyfriend 5 years but only serious for the last year and a half. Ilove him dearly would do anything for him and i know he feels the same. The thing is he's been around the block a few hundred times not always sex but his had a fair share& b4 u ask no he doesnt have any stds cuz i made him go 4 a test but he knows how annoyed i get when he looks at girls deliberately in front of me or talk about girls his been with before. he would never go into crude detail about it but he does it enogh to get a reaction out of me. i know he loves me and he would never cheat on me but he knows it upsets me so why keep going on about other girls?
2007-03-15 02:44:07 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he keeps doing that to u because u let him
2007-03-15 02:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he thinks as a male he should look at every girl and reminisce about his past as society has told him this type of behavior is normal and acceptable. Men are able to control their thoughts and where their eyes go. If he tells you otherwise he is lying. However, he probably doesn't think this should matter and will tell you that you are just jealous and should just keep quiet. He's immature. When he's ready to grow up he will stop. In the meantime, expect more of his straying eyes and thoughts as he is not capable of maturity at this time and society won't teach him otherwise. Most of the people in the world today are immature - they don't think how their actions and/or words affect others nor do they care - they call this acceptable behavior. The reality is, our behavior and words do affect others. A lot. Look how hurt you are by his thoughtless words and actions? You want to be the "Girl of his Dreams" and he is not giving that to you. And he won't until he realizes his behavior is wrong and hurtful. And, don't waste your breath trying to convince him he's wrong, he won't listen and will say every guy does it, get over it. And, you will just get more frustrated.
See him as he is and decide to accept him that way or move on.
Good luck.
2007-03-15 09:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a "control Freak" situation. He knows he can hurt you with words right now, and is letting you know that he can go with any girl he likes at any time.."so just behave yourself or I'm off" situation... he's already done it in the past and as they say, leopards do not change spots.No matter how much you love someone, or you think that they love you, if they are deliberately upsetting you, it's not true love, it is lust. You have some thinking to do before you carry this relationship to a higher level....ie: marriage. Good luck
2007-03-15 09:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by gillsnest35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a term in psychology called 'conditioning', 'reinforcement'. It works like this: whenever he talks about that, u reinforce him to keep on doing that by rewarding him 'the annoyed look'. HE loves to see u annoyed thats why he conditioned the process so that he could get satisfied..
try to not get annoyed, ex. response him when he sees another girl by telling 'oh ya, she's cute'. That way, he'll get the idea that u dont care anymore and that will stop u rewarding him. If he doesnt get rewarded then he'll eventually stop doing that.
HOpe it'll work
2007-03-15 09:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by w@NEe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys look at other girls while being in a relationship though it bothers us there is really nothing we can do to stop it. Him talking about who he has been with in front of you is wrong though you need to sit him down and let him know how it makes you feel otherwise he may think you dont mind and will continue to do so
2007-03-15 09:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's insecure and is constantly needing reassurance. By getting a reaction from you it's feeding his need.
If he keeps doing it, ignore him but not in a "huffy" way, just pretend like you don't see it/hear it/don't care. If he gets upset and asks why you're not reacting, tell him you're not insecure and you know he wouldn't go there.
2007-03-15 09:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't sweat it. he only does it because he knows your weak spot and he just tries to annoy you. I hope you understand that he is just trying to see how far you will let it go. If you feel he isn't going to stop than break-up with him.
Sorry To break the news your boys a player.
2007-03-15 09:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be doing that for a number of reasons.
More than likely, he's bragging about his sexual prowess to possibly overcompensate for other things....or it could be a way for him to control the emotions of the relationship....I would call him on it, and brag about some of your escpades as well....if you don't have any, make some up. Good luck!
2007-03-15 09:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what the rest of your life with this guy will be like. he has no respect for you to even hide his leering. he does not feel the same way for you as you for him. this hurts to hear, but you need to do some soul searching and find out if this is the way you want to live your life (with him). good luck.
2007-03-15 09:49:36 · answer #9 · answered by Christop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because your jealosy shows him that you care about him. it is a way for him to reinforce your relationship. try reminding him how you can't stand the thought of him with another girl, that his ex-girlfriends make you jealous, etc. Maybe if you do this enough, he won't have to try to make you jealous to make him feel more secure.
2007-03-15 09:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by timmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is doing that to get on yur nerves just ignore him any guy who wants to see there gf get mad isnt a good bf im a guy and i wouldent treat a girl like that and he has probably cheated on u if he does that
2007-03-15 09:48:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋