Any mom that was in school while taking care of your kid/kids...needing your help?

Question

I asked this question before but it was slightly different. I am writing a newspaper article about what it's like for a teen mother to take care of kids and go to school. If you are in this boat, tell me what was the most difficult thing for you, what was the worst thing about doing both, and what was the most rewarding. Add anything else that you would like. Thanks alot *Jessi* P.s. I am a mom too, I am still pregnant and Its not due until July, So I will be graduated before its born, But I want to show the world what its like for you, and let them know its no piece of cake.

Answer 1

I got pregnant around January of my senior year..so I was able to graduate before having the baby.

But, I did start college the next semester--so I did go to school while having a baby. I am lucky--my husband's mom doesn't work so as soon as we told her I was pregnant she volunteered to watch my son while I was at school.

I must say--it is difficult. I'll be graduating with my BS this semester. The main thing was time--once my baby was 4 months old, I made a point to put him to bed at the same time every night. So, I could easily study once he went to bed. Of course, I didn't (and still don't) have much of a social life.

I think is some ways--that is the most difficult part. Being around other college students who are free of that type of responsibility.--Especially when they complain about sleep deprivation from partying one night--- But, of course, I wouldn't give up my son for the world--and I am so thankful that I don't have to sacrifice my education for him, as it has been a goal of mine since I was about 7.

I suppose the most rewarding part is the pressure. If I had not had a baby while in college, then I don't think I would have taken it as seriously--and I probably would have been distracted with all the social aspects. I really focus on my studies, because now, it isn't only my future. If I can get a good education, and a good job down the road, then it will be a huge relief to me, my children, and my husband. He's been working this whole time I've been in school--pretty much, just to make money. I hope I can give him the opportunity (like I've had) to find something he really wants to do.

Actually, after I graduate, I will continue my education to get my master's.

I imagine in high school it would be a lot more difficult because of the atmosphere. No matter who you are, if you are pregnant at the high school age, someone will think negative thoughts about your irresponsibility without even knowing you. However, if you can survive getting an education while being a great mom---it shows an incredible amount of responsibility.

If you have any specific questions--I'd be happy to respond.

Answer 2

Well, I got pregnant just before high school graduation, so I was able to complete HS. But getting back into school was really tough. When I finally got enrolled and committed to the course, it was very difficult. But at my graduation when I stood to give a speech, my 4 yr old daughter stood up on her chair in the back of the room and hollered "Congwatchooashuns Mommy!" Everyone laughed and smiled and I started crying right there on the spot. Knowing that I had set an example for my daughter and that she had watched me achieve something worthwhile was more rewarding than the whole educational experience!