Should I say this to the girl I miss? I'm trying to plan out what to say to her these words are from the heart

Question

Hey. How are you? Ever since we stopped talking (me and her haven't talked for ten months), I had been going over everything in my head, trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. You know, I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. I remember the first thing you said was that I harassed you. It's strange, that was the last thing I ever wanted to do to you but I guess I did anyway. If you said that because I called you almost every weeknight, it was only because when we were at school we'd only talk for two minutes. I never really got to talk to you when it'd be just me and you. Even when I called, someone else would always call. I was always afraid that I was doing something wrong to make you not like me. I also remember that you told me I obsessed over you. I guess I did, but what boy wouldn't obsess over an amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, beautiful girl like you? Especially if he didn't want to lose you. It still

doesn't make it right though. It's just that a special girl like you is hard to find. No one else has your light brown eyes that sparkle when you're happy and fade away when you're sad. I get lost in your eyes. No other girl has your bright smile. I remember the last thing you said was I don't know you. You told me before that, when I was feeling down that you could tell something was wrong because you know me! I know I don't know everything about you, but I want to know everything about you. I really care about you you're special to me. Without you, I just had to admit that I must be really stupid. I should have understood then what you were trying to tell me, that it wasn't anything wrong with me that you didn't like, it was you just didn't share those feelings for me that I had for you. I've found out for myself it was better when you didn't like me in that way. Now that you don't like me at all, I realize that's worse. So, for these things I've done, I'm really sorry. I was just

afraid of losing you, so I did. I only want us to start over, pretend this whole thing never happened and if necessary forget that there was any mention of romantic interest between us. Maybe we could chill and hang out somewhere sometime as just friends, because I know with you I don't have a chance. I just want your friendship back, if it's ok with you. If you think I'm clingy, needy, desperate, then that's alright with me. I can't change what you think about me, I just know for myself that's not me. I just wanted to let you know, if for the last time, how I feel about you.
If writing this to you makes how you feel about me worse, then if you'd like to, just forget that I wrote it. If what you want is to never see me or speak to me again, I will just try to let you go just because I only want to make you happy.

I want to say or write this to her. Guys and girls what do you think? Girls, would you talk to me again if you were her? Are there any changes I should do? How do I make this shorter so I don't bore her? How do I compliment her more friendly and less romantic? I just have this feeling if I try actually talking to her instead of ignoring her she might listen. We've been saying hi to each other occasionally. I have not tried to speak to her in the time of us not talking, I've only called once then hung up out of fear a long time ago, basically I haven't tried hard at all, I've just ignored her and see her look at me. The ignoring thing seems like it's taking too long in terms of her coming to me, and that's just not me, but she sneaks glances at me from a distance. I guess I'm just mr. nice guy. I'm going to try to talk to her normally first before telling her this, or writing her this.

The things I talk about were what she told me the very last time we were on the phone, to months before I hadn't talked to her to give her space. They were not mentioned from her the last time we talked when she said she didn't want to talk to me anymore. She said she wasn't angry at me. She said she didn't know anything she didn't like about me. She also replied back when we were talking until I stopped thinking I was bothering her.
Also, she had never once complained that I called her to often even though I would ask her to make sure. Either I would call her, or she would instant message me and we would talk everyday.

What I mean by "plan" is I don't want t mess up when try to talk to her, because I haven't tried to yet

Answer 1

Yeah send it. Maybe focus less on the "Maybe you think I'm clingy needy and desperate", because if she does, thats a feeling you're trying to reverse not reinforce. But otherwise it's worth a shot: after 10 months what have you got to lose?

Focus on the "we can just chill together, I miss YOU as a person, not as an object of lust" idea (not in those words obviously. I'm a guy and have found that this kind of thing can work, but if you want it to be more than friends then you might just be kidding yourself. Sometimes, however, a girl is strong or stubborn about having decided that she doesn't want you in her life, in which case you just got to let go and deal with it. Because desperation is a bad look.

Answer 2

Dude, being honest here, you sound like a stalker. Be swift and sweet. " I'm sorry I was kind of caught in the moment before and I was wondering if I could take you out to diner(or something simple). Send it in a text or something, nothing in person and just wait for a response, if you don't receive one deal with the broken heart( only send it once), if you do be grateful for a second chance and lay off a little.

Answer 3

It's worth a shot, but if she has made up her mind about you, and doesn't want to give you a chance, then I wouldn't waste anymore energy obsessing over her.

Answer 4

definately....shorten it bro! ......i fell asleep 2x's reading it!