Can you take your mother to court if your 21 and living in her house? Her and the computer keep me up at night

Question

Hi, my mom recently moved the computer out of my sister's room and put it into mine. She moved it because my sister went to a counselor about how my mom would always stay up till 1 am almost every night surfing the web. Me and my sister are both college students. We need to sleep. My sister is 24 years old. My mother is a very unreasonable person. She has a lot of issues from when she was young. You cannot reason with her no matter how hard you try. In her mind, she is always right. When I ask her to get off the computer and let me sleep, she treatens to kick me out of the house. When I ask her how long it will be, she screams, "I don't have to answer to you!" Then she continues to tell me that I'm a waste of space and that she wishes she never had me. I tried to set up a schedule so she can write in when she wants to be in my room, but instead of writing on the paper, she tore it up. Then I asked her if she can be out of my room at a certain time every night, she refuses to answer me.

Answer 1

Could you not sleep in your sister's room? I know it's not ideal & I agree your mother is totally selfish & out of order but that's the only option for you to get some shuteye from where I'm seeing it anyhow....maybe others will have a better idea, sorry hun.

Answer 2

Its your mothers house. Your 21 and your sister is 24 your adults move out. She does not have to get off the computer when you want her too infact she doesnt even have to answer to you. Most parents think they know everything its the law of the land. But I tell you what if my child ever told me to do something such as get off the computer they wouldnt have much more to tell me. I however would never tell my children they were not wanted or call them a waste of space. Maybe move the computer into a more common area. I dont know how your home is set up but maybe a living room, dining room or even her bedroom? But I totally agree your mother does not have to answer to you and yes you can take her to court if you want every judge in the land to question you as to why you and your sister are 21 and 24 still living at home and trying to get your mother to answer to you. Dont use the excuse your still in college I was out of my parents house at age 16 in college. And I know many 18 yr olds that moved out too. Your living there because its free, and I'll tell you like I told my step daughter until you pay rent, help with the bills, buy your own food and prepair it do your own laundry you dont have a say in our home your the child. If thats harsh so what its how I was raised and I came out fine

Answer 3

What would you accomplish? I doubt you could even do it. Her house, her rules unless your name is on the deed. Unless you put substantial money into the house you have no leverage. Maybe the couch is the alternative. Or go to a counselor yourself. That seemed to work for your sister. Or move out as soon as possible.

Answer 4

It is time to move out. Yes that is your mother but she seems to have issues and before someone gets hurt you and your sister should move out. She feels since she is mom, pays the bills, and you live with her that she can do what she wants, when she wants.

Answer 5

what option you do have in reality is to get out. sane adults accept the rule of parent child development.....and see that there odds are vastly better if they exit the unmovable positions of parent is unaccountable for respect violations.with strangers you can expect reasonable, rationale,that can be addressed with an actual expectation of a amends to come or an effort made to relieve that mistake. i never had any expectation of my parent apologizing much less electing to change her agenda based on my disapproval...did she lie and spin tales of Yal coexisting as equals?if so, that was a big fat lie.....was it easy to swallow? im impressed in your great imagination.....and the world is flat and life is fair....and gold is in pots with green napoleans....and size dont matter.....full yet?

Answer 6

Move out

Answer 7

The easiest way to solve this problem is for you and your sister to move out! Why don't you two move in together and then you wouldn't have to deal with her being unreasonable.

Answer 8

You could, yes. but you would lose.

You have options. Sleep in another room, sleep at different times. find your own place to live.

Talk to your religious counselor.

Answer 9

Nice mother!!! (not).....maybe you should try and find someplace else to stay....for your own piece of mind.....call the police and see what they say,,,it could come under the heading of emotional abuse!!!