This friend of my boyfriends is constantly hanging around us. We have absolutely no privacy. I mean NONE. We don't live together, he is at his mom's because of her health. On the weekends though we go to the cottage. But it is never just us. His friend is there every weekend. Friday evening from 5pm till 1 or 2 am, Saturday 11 am till 1 or 2 am, and yet again on Sunday 11 am till we leave for home between 4 and 6 pm. I have told my boyfriend how much this bothers me, but it's the same weekend after weekend. I have dropped hints to this freak, and it doesn't work. He won't even try to get himself a girl friend because he is too obsessed with what my boyfriend is up to. It's getting scary. Any suggestions?
2007-03-15 01:59:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's probably upir boyfriends friend. If not, have your boyfriend tell him that you guys need more privacy.
2007-03-15 02:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by KidBao 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make plans ahead for next weekend with some friends, don't tell him yet....Wait until he's ready to go to the cottage with you, and then say something to the sort of oh i forgot i had plans with my girl friends this weekend i can't go to the cottage with you this time,have fun with your guy friend and i'll see you in a day or two. Leave it short and sweet and don't look back,by the end of the weekend he'll be begging for some time alone with you and with out his friend.
2007-03-15 09:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try getting this friend a date. Just invite a girl over for the weekend. Maybe they will like each other.
If you don't like that idea. Tell the jerk yourself that you want privacy! Don't hint. Just say it.
Good luck.
2007-03-15 09:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had the same problem once. I tried everything also...even just telling him to get lost...and it didn't work. It has to be your boyfriend telling him to disappear or its never going to happen...I guess boys like that don't have a lot of respect for girls or relationships and think that it is always going to be a boys club. Sorry but the BF has to do the deed.
2007-03-15 09:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by bundy_bee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do the guilt trip thing ,"I do not see why i even come to the cottage !! I just seem to be getting in the way of your quality time with (freaks name) " that will get the ball rolling . then make him compromise and let freak hang out one night of weekend .
2007-03-15 09:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by g.reef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it is your boyfriend responsibility to tell this guy to back off. If he doesn't do it, you might want to look at your man, not the other guy. Plan a trip to spend some time alone and make it firm that you want it to be just you two. If it doesn't happen, then your man is at fault and you need to get on him
2007-03-15 09:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by Michael b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi? in my own idea you speak three together your boyfriend,his friend and you.discuss this things together. you make open everything to them.tell your boyfriend about your situation when his friend will come always during weekend.ask also his friend what will be his opinion regarding this be frank to them.tell your boyfriend that you don't like anymore this situation.ask him where he prefer to go with.or else your relationship will last.
2007-03-15 09:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by Irma 4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get him a girl/boyfriend :) .If that does'nt work you should try to spend your weekends somewhere he doesn't know and ask your boyfriend not to tell him. Anyway, have you already talk to your boyfirend about this?
2007-03-15 09:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by FireStone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have not said if this bothers your boyfriend? if this is ur bf's friend should he be the one telling him something? i would have a long talk with my bf and make him realize that you are seriuos about this so called friend hanging around all the time and he needs to do something about it. he is the one that is going to have to put his foot down not you.
2007-03-15 09:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to your boyfriend to make him stop. If he doesnt obviously it doesn't bother him. So you either lose your privacy or tell your boyfriend to get lost, and lose him.
2007-03-15 09:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋