I've been with my girlfriend for about 3 months now. we were good friends first. she has a lot of guy friends. now granted I do know that she gets along with guys better than girls but she also is a ig flirt too. that's one of the things that I love about her is that she doesn't really hold back. shes very open and doesn't embarrass. before we were together I could talk to her about other girls and relationships without any open objection. same with her. now that we are together I feel uncomfortable talking about her past relationships. she has a few friends that she values very much. considers them to be invaluable...guys that would do anything for her and would always be there for her. these guy hve their own relationships that she says they are very happy with and that I don't have anything to worry about. I have yet to meet 2 of these friends and they are both guys that she has had relationships with in the past(long time ago..5 yrs and approx. 10 yrs) there are also guys that she has worked with before or known from when she was a kid that she talks to periodically that I don't know or know much about. I'm very serious about this woman. I really want to have a great relationship with her. this is our only problem. I am open to meeting these friends because I want to be part of this aspect of her life and hopefully resolve
my jealousy problem. also should we b maintaining our own individuality to the point where there are conversations with friends of the opposite sex that we don't mention to each other? should we be telling each other about these emails or phone calls? she has basically taken care of herself since she was very young because of an abusive upbringing and prides herself on being her own person and taking care of herself. also she feels like we should both maintain our own lives as well as our life together. I don't have any friends that are girls. I have made her my whole world so to speak. she is not comfortable with doing exactly the same although she has tried it seems. I know that she loves me but I can't help but feel insecure because because of these friends. maybe I will feel differently after I know them. please help..its killing our relationship
2007-03-15 01:54:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your question details were way to long to read so I'm just gonna reply to your original question. You have the right and probably need to feel jealous but don't be a dork about it. Man up and be cool. Or you'll end up losing out to the guys who are cooler.
2007-03-15 02:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she tells you there's nothing to worry about, don't worry. Unless she's given you a reason to doubt her, don't. She's an independent women. Praise her for that. I don't know if you will be able to have a life of your own and a life with each other though. You're in a relationship now. Being a part of each other's lives is the main point in a relationship. Talk to her about how you feel. Ask her exactly what she wants. If all she wants to do is go out with her guys friends every now and then, let her. There's nothing wrong with that. Don't feel like you need to go and find girl friends either. This isn't a competition. Some girls just get along better with guys. I know I do. I have a lot of guy friends. My boyfriend is fine with it because I've never given him a reason not to be. Don't ask her to choose between you or them. I gurantee it won't be you. If you want to be a part of her life, get to know her friends. Friends are a huge part of everyone's lives. Especially friends you've known for a long time or have a history with. Best of luck.
2007-03-15 09:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by jervett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, so im a flirt also, and was when i was with my recent x, and he had a problem with it too. do u have girl friends?? does she love u unconditionally??? she will b faithful. these r just friends, or mayb considered family, if she had a rough upbringin,m she may have these real close relationships with ppl so she has 'family' she can trust. u just need to trust her. so shes independant, is that such a bad thing? just let her know u WANT to loook after her and that u love her and want to meet every1, and u gotta really mean it, we can c thru guys who just say things without meaning them. b honest ok
much luck
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2007-03-15 09:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by Sammmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you think is your jealous problem is actually a TRUST problem! this is a common mistake people make about there own relationship problems, whether you want to admit it or not you dont completley trust her and theres no way i can speculate on why that is but you have to take care of your trust problem on your own, unless you have valid reasons not to trust her, then you have to take care of a girlfriend problem
2007-03-15 09:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something which she thinks in really really valuable among her best guy friends.
or do something really unique who woud never thing of doing for girl friend.
dont suspect a lot as she may break up wit u.
2007-03-15 09:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by santhosh v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they are only friends, I wouldn't worry. If she loves you, she will be true to you.
2007-03-15 08:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by pixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No . It just that you love her more than she love you .
2007-03-15 09:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by grottine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋