the friends forgot to show up! What do you do, and what do you say?
and what do you "really" feel like inside? Hmmmm?!
2007-03-15 01:49:08 · 21 answers · asked by ladyk 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would first call to ask if they were alright, you never know if there was some sort of emergency that prevented them from coming. If they have no good excuse, then this will make them feel bad that you were concerned for them and they were rude to you.
Then when you hear that they just forgot (hopefully they will apologize for their thoughtlessness), you can tell them that you worked really hard on dinner and it would have been nice to call ahead if they knew they weren't going to be able to make the date.
If they just plumb forgot about you or intentionally blew you off, then they can't be all that great of friends. Let them know they missed a great time and that you won't go all out for them again.
2007-03-15 02:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by mutherwulf 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First you have to ask yourself if you were clear on the invitation time and place. Did you invite them a month ago and then get so caught up in the slaving that you didn't bother with a reminder? AFTER you have analyzed and determined you could not be at fault, then you have to call your friends and say, "Where (the @##$#) are you guys??" Let them know they let you down! Without a doubt!
And then if they still don't come-go knock on your neighbor(s) doors. Explain the situation and offer an impromptu invitation to your house for dinner. You won't let the food go to waste and you'll make new friends! (ones that will know what you're like when you're stood up and not take that chance themselves)
2007-03-15 11:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by SayWhat? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a very hurt feeling!
I've been in that situation a few times...but not with the same guests.
I know that I shouldn't feel that way, but I consider them as rude and inconsiderate.
I don't even like it when they are late!
If they forgot to show up...believe me...they are not your good Friends. Say nothing...just don't invite them again.
I just don't invite those type of people for dinner again...unless they have a good reason...but not forgetting!
What is really frustrating is when they are expected for your dinner....they say: "Oh, we are not too hungry...we ate something before we came over"!
2007-03-15 12:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by bob P11 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sincerely, i will feel bad, hurt and bitter, because in this case the friend forgot to show up not that the friend was busy that tells me i am not special to that person, after all maybe is me that booked for the appointment, if not i will call to tell my mind and then go home and pray to forget about that friend depending on what the friend says.
2007-03-23 04:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by estilove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My feelings would definitely be hurt. But, I would not say anything to them, I'd just get over it and remember to not invite any of them ever again to any affair that I may have. And that goes for relatives as well! If they asked how it went, I would politely walk away. They didn't forget, they just didn't want to come. It is inexcusable to not acknowledge your absence from a dinner invitation without the courtesy of a phone call.
2007-03-18 14:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by DARMADAKO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at first, you may feel bad and disappointed with them. But it doesn't mean that everything will end that way. Everyone forgets easily but you should all and ask them if anything happened that stopped them to show up. Tell them what you feel. Then after some talk, be friends again.
2007-03-22 22:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by J Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, that hurts but maybe you can turn it around. Immediately call up some other friends, and share your fantastic dinner with them. You may find yourself in a new circle of good friends who are more appreciative and considerate.
2007-03-21 16:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by stormraven552003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
swettheart, sometimes we forget things, but this is my truly, honest opinion, I am very friendly and i give anything for a friend, but I wouldn't forgive what they did to you, sound like I am a hater? well, in that situation i am and I will be, now give them the chance to speak, or at least to tell you what happen, i am so special that I will even change my number for them not to contact me, you deserve a big apology from them, see what you get, if not take it as an expirience.
2007-03-22 15:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time do call them a few hours before the dinner to make sure they remember to come.
2007-03-15 12:16:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd be furious. But I wonder if this is the kind of people they are in general -- careless about everything. If that's the case, they probably do stuff like this all the time.
2007-03-15 11:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by Corinnique 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋