I'm shocked and confused as 4 weeks ago my female friend said that our FRIENDSHIP IS OVER!That I should move on wth my life and she wishes me all the best.(we didn't speak for 4 months-I wanted a break from her-got too close+she was indecisive to what she wanted).
We met 3 WEEKS AGO at a friends party,we spoke a lot,but she still looked hurt+uncomfortable at times.
I asked her if I could add her as my friend on Facebook(via email)THATS ALL I ASKED,NOTHING ELSE.She wrote bck: asking how I am,what she done on her wkn and said I can add her "as a friend lol"
I said how I was and asked NO questions about her.
SHE WROTE BACK AGAIN, saying I should be having fun with the ladies and to join her appreciation society!Wrote back saying I've been having fun wth other girls-too much fun!(which is the truth!) She didn't reply to my last message.
Why she resume contact? Did she mean what she wrote in the txt?(friendship over)
2007-03-15 01:35:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
p.s. only want friendship-nothing more.I've gotten over her now(after another girl!).Only asking if this is positive in terms of FRIENDSHIP - not romanticly!
Also-resume contact: i.e. in asking how I am, when I just asked permission for me to add her as a friend.
I did apologise for wanting a break from her-also told her I want to be friends only.(before she wrote that txt)
2007-03-15 01:37:08 · update #1
I am a little confused here. She was and always just been a friend. Did you make a move and due to her indecisiveness, you took that break. I am guessing here. Lot of things come in to play, She is hurt,that's for sure Why? maybe she thought she wasn't undeceive and you say nothing other than , needing a break.
She did want something more and she put her self out there, by starting a conversation via email. You didn't say much, so she again put her self out there, to see if you have moved on and if you are happy. You answer her question. she just didn't like the answer, She cant be friends with you. She wants more and by writhing that in the txt, over. she is either meaning right or she seeing if you feel anything. If you don't feel anything more than friendship.. Let it go. any sign of a Little of something will be a lot of something to her. lay low and in time, she will get over it and you'll run into each other and it will be OK. wont ever be the same it will be very casual and most likely stay that way
2007-03-15 02:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Reduce all contact with her except casual, accidental meetings.
2. Try to redirect your activities to support of those things you want out of life. You might want to make a list of the five most important things you want to accomplish and work on them.
3. If you find yourself obsessing about her, you may need disinterested, professional help to discuss the issue and get some understanding of why you are unable to "let go."
4. Remember that others are just as "confused" as you. We are all in the human condition. The trick is to focus on yourself and control your actions.
5. Get and read "Looking Out for #1" by Robert Ringer. It's not a cruel as it sounds. (It can be hard, though.)
2007-03-15 01:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok , comin from a female perspective, just let her know that u lub her to bits (if u do) but as a friend, mayb even say as a sista. and u dont wanna do anything to lose her as u cherish ur pals. let her know u wanted space cuz u needed to know exactly how u felt, or to let her get ova u a bit if u was gettin too close.
sometimes a real good friendship is ruined with romance, just talk to her, mention some of these things if u think they fit.
its all good, dont get urself all worked up about it, lifes too short to worry if ppl like u or not.
:) enjoy evry minute of it
much lub <3
2007-03-15 01:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by Sammmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The techniques of a girl is a complicated situation and the path to their emotions is much extra so. i think of you need to be chuffed you have a friendship with this woman and not push issues. If that's meant to take place that's going to take place. i think of that as she has textual content somebody approximately you she does preserve you yet additionally why the hell are not you txting her? only for the reason which you have printed your emotions and been informed that perchance that's not the only right suited time why ought to issues replace between you the two. i think of she is a real pal a a threat soul mate only supply it time, do no longer push and revel in life!
2016-09-30 23:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by emilios 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I uppose if you had achance you blew it, best thing is let by gones be by gones, and get one with your life, it happens to all of us.
we kick ourselves afterwards, but you have moved on, or have you?
As for her, shes hant moved on, the reason shes didnt reply was beacause you said you where having funs with other girls, etc, and that got to her, you hurt her!
I would reply to her with a message: I am not really with any girl, and i can sleep eat, or dirnk, well properly, how do you feel?
that is if you want her back, she liked you!
good luck
jam
2007-03-15 01:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by jam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats women for you my friend, thats the way they are and thats the way they will always be . "Get used to it " Better still , get yourself another hobby they are a pain in the a==
2007-03-15 01:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and concentrate on your recent lady friend!
2007-03-15 01:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by Zorro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget what you HAD, and move ON, - for your OWN sake!
2007-03-15 02:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by Spike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what is going on!
2007-03-15 01:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by jumpy j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus STOP askin the same question..............!!!
2007-03-15 02:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by Dolly 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋