how can i decide to change for good? where should i focus first?

Question

career: underpaid, qualified for better job - need to teach myself a little (maybe 45 minutes to 3 hours worth of learning) to feel confident for job interview ?s - just need to apply for next position
finance: in severe debt - every penny i make is being paid to bills/credit cards - dont' use credit cards anymore - never a late or missed payment
physical: poor, morbid obesity, lazy on 'off work' days - 14 days a month
mental: often depressed, sometimes manic, , self injury issues, beginning signs of bulimia, uncontrollable OCD, diagnosed ADHD too
drink: sometimes every day, occasionally 3-4 days without it, drinking on the job 75% of the time, very high tolerance for hard alcohol
medications: abuse of ADHD meds, don't take bipolar meds, mix nyquil w/xanax, adhd meds, alcohol, aspirin, take seroquel or tylenol pm to force sleep, daily use of vicodin or stronger
Where would you start? How would you fix things? How can I stay motivated to live right? Thx.

"start with the weakest problem first' - so given that i am a really good self injurer, I suppose that is last on the list to be addressed............?

to the other re: I didn't write it based on importance or care - it went alphabetical .

I actually know HOW to go about solving all the problems - there are just so many to tackle all at once, and HOW to stay motivated, I am not sure.

Can't 'try hard to stop' - just 'stop' I stopped for a 14 months once just to show someone that they didn't know me - I succeeded cuz I had a goal that mattered to me - I don't know how to get one that lasts a lifetime or something.

i'm not worried about going for a phD or something - i'm already and engineer and as stated am qualified for the next position up - i just get too scared to go through with the interview.....IRONY: I believe I am totally capable of and will do very well in the next position; I'm just scared of the interview, because I know I won't be able to answer their questions about specific things at this point.......

At work, I am extremely confident and knowledgable - I am the "go-to" guy and often get called/paged on my off days to resolve problems over the phone.

I am confused as to why so many of you assume that I am not in some sort of therapy or seeing a doctor who is obviously prescribing some of the mentioned medications. I admit - you're kind of right - I did attempt to see a few doctors for the past year or so, but then in November, one doc and I got into it - this ended my relationship (the counsleor) with him and his co-partner. My other doc (the one prescribing the meds for Adhd etc) has not made me physically appear in front of him since Nov either cuz I convinced him i'm doing great - i just call and request a refill once a month....

you can contact me via e-mail or messenger if you want - Thank you everyone for your input.........

Answer 1

Good example to show to my son as how to mess up things. Dear, Life is a wound by itself and you deepened that than curing. We are hungry so we eat. Then we keep eating. After some time we do not know why we eat? Then think of stopping?

We start drugs and alcohol for "pleasure" and after some time that become the route cause of pain and then when it become pain, we ask the above question. How to stop this pain?

One good thing is now you know how much mess is there. Just start working to reach an equilibrium. Think always about correction. Never repent even when you go little wayward. Write down each deviations. At least 20-30 minutes a day, visualise mentally about a "Healthy" mental and physical situation. Start today itself at least 5 minutes a day and increase. All that sequence cannot be written here due to time pressure. Mail me, I can help you. [e-mail].

Answer 2

Dear Disorder,

I think I would start with seeing a therapist or if you prefer, your Doctor about the mental disorders you've listed, that could get you on the right track and may make you feel better about yourself because the self injury could be part of the bipolar disorder?. Don't feel bad also, I have someone close to me who just needs someone to talk to about certain things, so your not alone.

alright, I hope I helped you out.
I'm here for you if you ever need more information or still not satisfied about something.

Answer 3

Find an AA meeting. Stop drinking & using drugs.
Join a gym and USE the membership.
Start a diet, weight watchers or something.
Finance -- open a savings account and have $25-$50 automatically transferred by your bank on a set date every month.


Doing this is probably easier said than done, but you are asking for help on how to get back on track.


Good Luck & I wish you the best!!!

Answer 4

first try to give up the drink. drinking too much alcohol could be the cause of your depression, it is also a bad thing to drink before you go to bed, I know a lot of people go out for a drink but alcohol is not good for going to sleep with, your need to be relaxed before you go to bed, makes sleeping easier, seek help from qualified people, your GP should be seen, he will refer you to the appropriate people, then slowly rebuild your life with their help. They will also give you move information on your sleeping problems, your confidence and all your other problems you have listed.

It won't be easy, the journey could be long, slow and painful emotionally, but worth the effort, once on your journey don't give up. With your body and brain healthier, your confidence will build, then you can sort out your employment issues than you financial problems.

Good luck and best wishes

Answer 5

diet: eat healthy.try only 1000 calories a day. i know being lazy we usually dont like this word but excersise!!!!!! try billy blanks taebo. it targets alot of areas at once. but you have to stay commited.

sleep:7-8 hours a day. make at least 7 happen or get as close as possible.

drink: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!! IT IS SOOOO BADfor you . please try hard to stop.

meds: dont abuse them use them

job: what are you Qualified for? get a phd it is worth it


need more????
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Answer 6

fix your life in order the way you write down your problem here. start from the basic problems then solve the bigger. you can do it, you just need to have initiative and will to do it.

Answer 7

in short, start first with the weakest area...