I'm a mom of one daughter she is 15, i feel very nervous when she changes her clothes infront of me....i never do this myself infront of her...even i dont wear nighties when when i m going around in house....is tht normal!!
2007-03-15 01:30:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Have you ever gone shopping with her and gone into the change room with her? How can you feel that way when you were the one who changed her bum for so long. She feels comfortable with you and there is nothing wrong with that. Around your husband, that is a little different, but you are her mom.......another female. I never had issues around my mom. Taking her clothes off around her MOTHER does not mean she is comfortable taking her clothes off infront of anyone else. Are you uncomfortable taking you clothes off around your husband? Probably not, but would you be uncomfortable taking your clothes off around some other man....yes. There is a difference. Is she can't be herself infront of you.....who has she got?
2007-03-15 03:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great that your daughter feels comfortable around you. You have obviously done a good job in creating a trusting relationship...She probably doesn't even think about it when she is around you. I think that you should use moments like that as teachable moments... Let her know that she is beautiful and special and to cherish that part of her... Use that time to teach her about her body and when and who it should be shared with. The impotance of privacy and respect... The best gift you can give her is an open and trusting relationship, which it seems like you have done...
2007-03-15 01:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by luv2syd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just modest person who is not really confortable with nudity or casualness. That is OK, it's just who you are. Obviously she is different as feels more comfortable showing her body. I think a lot of younger girls feel this way, and it makes sense as clothes are more revealing than they were in your/my day. It is just a difference of personalities and generations. I wouldn't say anything to her, b/c it might make her feel self-conscious, and it sounds like she has a good body image right now.
2007-03-15 11:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by MissM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the way we have been brought up and the 'generation gap'.Our children don't think much about stripping in front of their parents - they take it for granted.
I suggest you move out of the room when your daughter is changing. If you are on good terms with her, maybe you can speak to her and tell her that you feel uncomfortable about her stripping in front of you and she should do so in the privacy of her room/bathroom
2007-03-15 01:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by JDGuru at work 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter's behavior sounds normal to me. She probably goes into changing rooms with her girlfriends and tries on clothes in front of them. She just sees you as one of the girls. If you don't feel comfortable with changing in front of her, you don't have to. And you can always excuse yourself when she starts to change and just say, "I'll give you some privacy."
2007-03-15 01:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by oj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its normal,some people just have respect for others,my 15 year old at first would not change clothes in front of me,I guess she was just shy of her body,now she does,because she sees that I do it.It all depends on your up bringing as the gentleman ahead of me said.Did your mom change clothes in front of you??
2007-03-15 01:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by Lin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mary, deep down inside you know this is not acceptable behaviour based on how you were brought up. Personally I think this is a serious issue, not that you feel nervous, but that your daughter feels no shame. Today, kids are being indoctrinated into thinking open sex and nudity are normal and acceptable. I think maybe your daughter just accepts undressing and being nude in front of people is somehow normal. I would definately sit down and talk with her and impress upon her your values on this matter before she gets older and feels its just peachey fine to undress in front of boys and other people. She's at the age now where this already could have negative implications.
2007-03-15 01:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by Sane 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
That's perfectly normal, as long as she's not dressing in front of her dad, brother etc., in which case you would need to let her know that isn't appropriate.She should not dress in front of any man unless it's HER husband.
2007-03-15 08:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Twinkle♥Toes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mary, You are normal and so is she. Be glad she is so comfortable around you, and try not to show her that her nudity makes you nervous.
Somehow when you were growing up you were influenced to be more private. That's okay too.
2007-03-15 01:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by mamadixie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why r u nervous?... she's your daughter... the only reason that can explain you being nervous is if your attracted to her sexually which is pretty gross...maybe your confusing nervous with uncomfortable or awkward
2007-03-15 06:02:47 · answer #10 · answered by lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋