Please help me..i had a relation wid two guys but i use to love them.. they ditched me. so i went into the other realtion, n started flirting .i lied n hurtd him a lot. Den i realized he is perfect man .I satrted loving him wid full devotion and care. i din tell him anything of my past to him. Now he came to know somwhow, but i confess things him. But he dosent want to live with me. I am dying every minute. I m not a virgin, this really haunt me. wat should i do
2007-03-15 00:45:10 · 6 answers · asked by Aakriti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you must live in a very backward country!!!!
2007-03-15 00:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while it isn't a good idea to open up a new relationship with the revelations of your past, when you begin to have a serious relationship with someone, you owe them the truth
particularly when marriage is an issue.
since virginity is an important quality for many people both male and female, they need to know if you are a virgin in order to continue toward matrimony.
as for your past coming to his attention somehow, he may be very angry that you didn't come to him and tell him from the start that you had past sexual encounters.
lying in ANY relationship doesn't serve to strengthen it. and for some, lying is a total deal breaker.
talk to your local clergyman or a counselor to sort out your feelings on a more personal level.
Tell this man HONESTLY that you are sorry that you hurt him and that you feel like you would like to continue in a relationship but be willing to understand his side of the coin if he says no.
While you can't remove your past, you can go forward and change. if you want to begin again and live without sex until you find the "right one", don't do things that put you into a circumstance where sex is the next logical step.
don't set yourself up for the temptation. once you have started to have that type of intimacy with a man, you can't go back to being "just friends".
2007-03-15 00:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by stonechic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In today's society, not being a virgin is no reason to not get married. And everyone has secrets about there past. If you really love him then tell him that nothing before him can compare to what you feel for him. If he loves you, not being a virgin shouldn't matter. I don't know why the women are expected to be virgins and the men expected to be studs. Double standard that no longer exists.
2007-03-15 00:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by GirlsDeadMonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look. Its no longer a criminal offense no longer being a virgin. Ask the guy if he's a virgin. probability is he's not the two. the guy is utilising virginity as an excuse to offload you. My expensive, circulate on. sell off him and circulate look someplace else. In destiny, be smart. supply up raking history. go away history on my own. whilst asked approximately your virginity, replaced the subject.
2016-10-02 04:01:30 · answer #4 · answered by condom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you post similar question earlier on? Oh well, you don't have to lie becos once liars are found out, it can be painful. Just ignore the question and change subject.
2007-03-15 00:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should tell him"babe,it was my past,long time ago,I love u".And If he cant except that u have a past as well as everyone else in the world,hes not worth ur time.
2007-03-15 00:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋