Ok! I have been seeing this girl from work. I have known her for 2 years now, and we just started going out. we have gone on 2 dates, and they both went fine. I even kissed her on our last date. But the past week has gone something like this : I would text her, and she would not text back right away, or when she would, she would text, and say that she is really busy (she has kids) and can't talk right now. I'll call you later, then never does.
Now when i see her at work, she will talk to me, and tell me she is sooooooo sorry for not calling, and that she got busy with her kids etc...then she will say " call me tonight" So when I get off from work I will text her, and then she will text back saying she is busy, she has something going on etc...Then say I'll call you later...Then never does. The next day I see her at work and she says "I'm soooooo sorry I didn't call. I had this problem. Call me tonight!
I like this girl. I have been cool to her, but I don't understand this?
2007-03-15 00:39:42 · 13 answers · asked by Officespace 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd back off a little bit and not call or text her and see if she says anything. If she does, say that every time you call her she says she's too busy. Tell her to call YOU then when she's not too busy to talk...I wouldn't get snippy about it. I'd be as matter-of-fact and aloof about it as possible to make it sound like you really don't care either way. Then see what happens...
oh, the cat and mouse games that men and women play! I'm so glad I'm married now!!! LOL
Good luck, Hon!!!
2007-03-15 00:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a possibility that she really has problems at home, related to kids etc. Give her some time, its still early to know.
And then theres also a possibility that shes not serious with u, and buying time, whatever.
No sweat, u will know soon. Give her a week or two and if things dont change, go forward, there are other fish in the sea.
2007-03-15 00:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by saltnsaffron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl is a flake. See some other women for a while to change her perspective on you and yours on her.
Part of the problem was waiting to your second date to kiss her. This sent her a signal that she is the center of the relationship--notice she is telling you when to call and you are doing it. This frustrates you and reinforces her position as the one in control of the emotional experience.
Yep, see some other women.
2007-03-15 00:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by paralegaltechnik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 01:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by troxell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, it is possible she IS busy. She has kids and kids need more attention from her. Take her out on a date and have an adult to adult conversation. Tell her not to lead you to nowhere. Let truth come out. You will learn a lot from that date and act accordingly
2007-03-15 01:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she either is married or lives with someone or has interest level lower than 40%, which equals to nothing. i suggest one thing - stop calling or texting her. if she contacts u she somehow is interested in u, if she never cintacts u herself she doesn't like u and doesn't want to continue. kids are not excuse. i have 3 children, but somehow i managed to communicate and date with a lot of guys when i was single. i always had time for them if i was interested in them. if i wasn't i always had this excuse - i have children i am busy
2007-03-15 00:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to get to the bottom of things. Ask her why? Could it be that she's seeing someone else and don't want to risk loosing you incase that relationship didn't take off? You deserve an honest answer. Ask her!
2007-03-15 00:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on - she's using you as an ego boost. You're better than that, and worth sooooooo much more! Good luck.
2007-03-15 00:43:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definatley living with another guy(maybe even married) ask her straight up if she still seeing her kids fathe (or any other guy) that way you know where you stand ! (right?)
2007-03-15 00:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she has a husband......drop her. Or, say "OK! I'll call/text you" - and then don't. Let her see how it feels.
2007-03-15 00:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by Robby's Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋