I am a 37 year old male happily divorced I work overseas I stay in shape I am 6 foot and 176 pounds and have four great boys, I think that’s were women seem to be turn off. Why do most women shy away from men with kids?
2007-03-15 00:28:39 · 18 answers · asked by appel jackes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to be known she left me and my boys. The women I do go out with are in the same age range as I am. And no women with kids do not bother me the first to boys are from her first marriage but I treat them as if they were mine I adopted them.
2007-03-15 01:09:37 · update #1
Wow, without knowing you, can't say for sure. Can put out some questions to consider, though:
Women aren't one big, homogenous group. Different women like different things. If nobody's interested, then you might look at where you're meeting women, and which women you choose to approach (for example, if you're trolling for 25-year-olds, expect more rejection, as you aren't close to 25 yourself).
To figure out why your approach isn't working, look at it from a woman's perspective. Ask a female friend (you do have some, right?) for her opinion. Someone who knows you. Take her out, treat her the way you do your dates, then ask her where she thinks you're going wrong. Then listen. Don't defend yourself. You want to know what to change, right?
"Women" don't shy away from men with kids. Women who don't want kids, or who only want their own kids, shy from men with kids (just as men who don't like dogs shy away from women with dogs, or women who don't like sports don't go to sports bars to meet guys who live and die by how their teams are doing). How do you feel about dating a woman who has a kid or two herself? One thing for sure - if she has kids, she's more likely to be okay with you having kids.
This sounds like a case of not identifying the target (a woman who likes you and your kids) and not considering your methods (where you meet women, which women you approach). As the saying goes, "you have to catch fish in the water." That's where the fish are. If you're baiting your hook with the wrong bait and casting your line in the parking lot, you're not likely to catch much.
2007-03-15 00:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
luggage..
ex..
i date you i'm a mom.. damn of 4 kids holey crap. most women don't want to jump into a realationsip with someone with kids!
That devorced bit don't help much either at least not in my eyes it shows you can not communicate, or have passion, or trusting realtation ships.. Most everythingcan be worked out and i guess your last marrage didn't.
when a women wants kids they want them to be there own they wantt hat bond. when i look at tdevorice people i just wonder how long untill you give up on me?
what you should do is find a place where other devorse women are who has kids. then maybe they wouldnt be so scared of the momy fact!
2007-03-15 07:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you do have four boys. That's a lot. However there are women out there that love kids. Especially little boys. I do.
Women can shy away from that because they are looking for me time. Not time being a mommy.
2007-03-15 07:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, someone else's kids are a big responsibility and a pain in the a's's. especially 4 children! i am a woman, i have 3 biys and still i consider my second husband who took me with 3 children abnormal and crazy. i would never ever marry anyone with even one child. and besides, are u wealthy enough to provide for u, your 4 boys, your future wife, her possible children and your mutual child or few? i sure doubt so. so maybe here is also your problem. i advice u to take a look at olding spinsters. maybe they will be happy to take care of someone else's children cos they can't have their own any more. me, as a mother of my own children - i have feelings only for my children
2007-03-15 07:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father remarried a woman who hated us kids from the day they got together. The reason why? She was jealous of the time and attention we 'took' from him. I believe that many women don't want to compete with a man's children for his affections. Now that I'm 30 I will not date men with children for fear that I will behave as appalingly as my step-mother.
2007-03-15 07:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
THE SAME REASON MEN DO.SOME WOMEN HATE CARRYING BURDEN OR EXTRA POUNDS AROUND THEM.PLUS THERE'S THE NEGATIVE STIGMA SURROUNDING THE WHOLE STEP-PARENTS ISSUE.I THINK WHEN THE RIGHT WOMAN COMES ALONG SHE WOULDN'T MIND BEING IN A RELATIONHSIP WITH A MAN WITH KIDS.
2007-03-15 07:32:52 · answer #6 · answered by MAIME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same reason guys shy away from women with kids.
Kids = Baggage.
2007-03-15 07:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe they're afraid to get attached with so many people all at once. we are afraid even of the marriage commitment. i do beleive what you say about yourself but, if you were in their shoes i think you will think again and again, because sometimes there's about to have problems whatever their nature. but don't worry maybe someone might find you and your connections quite attractive.
2007-03-15 07:38:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with women, because i am one.maybe it's you. and i admire a man that has kids and taking care of them. maybe you just haven't met the right one that accepts your kids.
2007-03-15 08:35:13 · answer #9 · answered by MAKISHA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all women shy away from men wit kids
2007-03-15 07:36:24 · answer #10 · answered by fish girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋