ok here's wat happened....i met this guy n we started goin out..everythin was great.... but then this new girl showed up n 2 days later he dumped me... i was really hurt cuz all he said was i love her... i didnt see it coming! this was the 1st guy i that actually seemed to like me for ME! all the other guys liked me for looks rather than personality...anyways i saw him once more but then i had to move!! and that was the last time i saw him ....(he didnt end up with that girl)... i m goin bak this yr and from wat i herd from my friends hes probably gna ask me back.. . im not saying i want sm crazy revenge ideas! its not like i wanna go n crash him car or smthin... i jus donno wat to do when i see him... i donno how to act around him... wat can i do to show him i dont care anymore n that he cant fool me anymore! plz i m really confused!!
2007-03-15 00:07:43 · 12 answers · asked by emma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wat i ment is that we stayed together for about a month....not 2 days... it was 2 days after the girl showed up that he broke up wid me! and i agree ive learned SO MUCH from this experience! and now i know for a fact that im not gna get into anythin again unless im sure its 100% true! but back then i thot it was true! he even told me he loved me! THAT JERK!! all i want is my dignity back! i want to make he feel like kickin himself jus by the way i treat him..n in the same time it would show like i dont have any bad intentions against him....should i treat him formally??? or wat??
2007-03-15 22:10:53 · update #1
Really want to confuse the heck out of him while feeling good yourself?
Be nice to him. Not "we're friends" nice, just... nice. Polite. "Hi, how are you?" Treat him the way you would treat an acquaintance, not someone you have history with. Be polite, courteous, calm, kind. You don't have to cozy up to him or anything.
See, anything else will just make things worse for you. Be nasty, or cold, and you'll know he's seeing how much he hurt you. Be polite, and he's just "somebody I went out with a few times." Don't say anything mean about him to anybody. When his name comes up, just smile and shrug. If anyone brings up your past, say, "He's okay - we went out for a while, but it didn't work out." Then change the subject.
This is a great opportunity to practice two skills that you'll use a lot for the rest of your life - letting something go when it's over, and being classy. Both great skills that will improve your life all over the place.
You might also use this chance to develop another useful skill - forgiveness. Not for him - for you. While you don't forgive him, then you're giving him power to make you feel awkward, or bad. He's human and flawed (maybe plenty flawed), so you forgive him for being such a jerk (which will, in the long run, hurt him more than you), and you move on.
Doesn't mean you have to pretend he's your best friend, just that you forgive him for being clueless and don't hold it against him that he was stupid enough to mess up his relationship with you. You don't have to take him back (why would you? He's shown that he has no problems stomping all over your feelings, which means at some point, he'd do it again), but you don't waste energy hating him, either.
Whether he meant to or not, your Ex did you a favor. He got you out of the relationship before he had time to really mess with your head, AND he's giving you a chance to grow and become someone who will go on to have a fabulous life.
2007-03-15 00:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be too busy to even notice him, surround yourself with your friends. If he approaches you have one of your girlfriends call your cell phone after about 30 seconds into conversation with him. Cut him off and answer the phone & be all mushy & lovey on the phone(you might mention to the hunk on the phone that this"kid" you had a childhood crush on for a week or two is there with you)laugh alot. After saying "I love you, baby" hang up. Say "hey it was good seeing you. Take care bye!"
If he insists on talking to you cut him off & very nicley say"Hon I just have to go, sorry" & rush off like you are going to meet the love of your life.
I am not one for game playing but as long as you definetly have no intentions of ever ever getting back with this loser. I can see how he may have met someone else-it happens but then to have the nerve to try to get back with you after he jilted you, that s not right at all. He needs to know he is not Gods gift to women & he can't treat women like that.
2007-03-23 05:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to ignore him, and possibly stop jumping into relationships without first assessing the other party's motives, intentions and true feelings thoroughly. Don't pay any heed to this guy. After all, he probably was another one of those jerks anyway - who ends a relationship after just 2 days, if he's supposedly serious about it?
2007-03-15 07:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by Marcao 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends , if a boys tells you that he loves you very much but after a few days he puts an end to the friendship and goes with someone else , it means that he is only following his passions but otherwise it can be considered as just a mistake that he's made. it's up to you. think about what he's done(was it like the 1st case or the 2nd?) and make up your mind.
2007-03-15 07:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by arash_exander 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you go back act like your still interested in him but don't make it look like you really wont him that bad and he should be the one to ask you out
2007-03-15 08:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by T-Money 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have anything to do with him bnecause he dumped once. As the saying goes Do me wrong once shame on you do me wrong twice shame on me. so don't set your self up fdor the second time
2007-03-22 14:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by ravenhk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a bigger person ,an let the revnge thing go,, realy not thing good can come from it,,,, i think i tell this guy, well you had your one change an blew it, ...move on with your life,,,,, for you know he going to hurt you again,
2007-03-15 07:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd say revenge. he gets what he deserves plus u feel better. i know its not nice but hey what can ya do. he was a jerk, be one back. find his underwear drawer and rub insulator on the crotch part. mmm lol i dunno, that might not work, just think about it, it'll come to ya. good luck.
2007-03-23 06:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by smarta$$ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he played you, so do it back.......... let him think you still care for him..... then when he thinks everything is perfect, break up with him and say, i cant help it i love someone that moved near me.
2007-03-15 07:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by jazzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go out with him anymore. Quit playing such stupid, childish games.
2007-03-15 07:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋