I have been seeing a girl for three years.. Last year I decided to move to USA and take up a new job, she stayed and begged me to come back during that year until a few weeks ago, to come back and work on our relationship, we were both very jealous... esp her.
I screwed up, Don't say '***...' I know! ------> my new life in USA bought me so many new things, work, play... and flirting. I saw a girl a few times,it didn't mean ANYTHING... but it happened, on and off for months. My girlfriend found out, and of course it all went down hill. A month ago, we saw each other and it was great. but weird... and we knew there was an obvioius problem. Trust, a huge distance in home... and the feeling of - learning to live without each other especially on her part.
She asked me to move back, move in together... give it a shot, we loved each other. * I know what yr thinking - he screwed up though?!* and i agreed. Two days ago I got a call before returning back to the UK to say, she wants to break!!!!
2007-03-14 23:43:28 · 13 answers · asked by the_randomone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relationships from far away never work.
This is always what happens.
On of the 2 always starts playing around and the other sites like a stupid one waiting when the other will came back!!!.
Well it is totally ur fault.
Now it's 2 late.
U souled had respect her, and not to play around.
What goes arid comes around.
She souled have done it a long time ago.......
2007-03-14 23:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by iona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is best if you do break up, I don't want to be negative here but you seem to want different things in life.
You can't have a proper relationship with you in the U.Sand her in the U.K, the jealously will tear you apart if nothing else will.
I don't think you screwed up as such, we are all human after all and this could have happened to anyone, male or female. If you love your girlfriend more than anything else and you want to make things work then one of you has to make a sacrifice, either you move back to UK and give up your dream, or she moves out to US to share your dream. If neither or you are prepared to do this then then you must go your separate ways.
Maybe when she called you two days ago, she wasjust testing to see what reaction she would get? Talk to her and find out what she wants, what you both want, if you love eachother enough you can work it out, if not, then move on wioth your life and live your dream.
Good luck, I hope it all works out for you.
2007-03-14 23:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard not to see other people when you are so far apart. People like to feel needed and loved. Not saying what you did was right. Trust seemed to be an issue before you screwed up, I would get out of the relationship for good. Remember the good times and take what you have learned with you. Leave all the other issues behind when you go.
2007-03-14 23:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by cutie322434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"If she does not come back to me i will understand she does not deserve me".... Do you even hear your self? You insensitive @$$hat! how are you able to go away her then say she does not deserve you? Jeez you're screwed up, you already know that? in case you wreck her heart and then she does not want it broken lower back so she does not come back to you begging, how via any ability does that make her no longer worth of you? you do no longer deserve her you ungrateful b******!!! i'm hoping she sits down at your computing device, sees which you asked finished strangers in case you need to go away her for no obvious reason, and then stands up and straight away up falcon punches you interior the nads! Then i'm hoping you sustain testicular trauma from the hit and can by no ability ever have youngsters, using fact this international particular as heck does no longer want extra jerkwads such as you working around.
2016-10-18 10:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay where you are; Plenty more fish in the sea.
If you come back to this girlfriend you're likely to just ruin your life for an unsuitable relationship -get over her quick.
2007-03-15 01:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not the bad one, when it comes to life and relation no one is the bad one we just go with our feelings. Life is short if you where flirting it's obvious that you where not 100% happy with her. Move on to your new life and let her find her happiness with someone else that will make her relly happy.
2007-03-15 00:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by stickjust4me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can understand where she is comming from but it was a new city and new life. Say your sorry, and that you still love her and you will do anything for her
Hope This Helps
Good Luck
xx
2007-03-14 23:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your own fault, if you loved her you wouldnt have done it in the first place...youre just feeling bad now because she doesnt want you, you were okay when you were doing what you wanted, let her ifnd someone that respects her because you clearly dont.
Nothing realy else to say other than typical bloke, sorry!
2007-03-15 00:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by libbysaggers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change BEFORE you try to get her back and make sure you are really willing to be a DIFFERENT person...because if you get tired of being good and go back to your old ways you will only hurt her worse and you're hurting yourself by acting fake.
2007-03-14 23:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by TarasBoutiqueAtEtsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time
why didn't she move with you to America? was it her work or just because she didn't want to?
2007-03-14 23:46:49 · answer #10 · answered by aleta_uk_0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋