and there isnt a min goes by where i dont think about her i feel lost and lonly without her but it was me that left her why do i feel this pain im a 34 yr old not a boy
2007-03-14 23:25:40 · 13 answers · asked by darren p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being a boy or a man has nothing to do with actual age.
2007-03-14 23:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
calm yourself out.i understand how you feel about splitting up with her.everybody feels like that.when you left her you must have your own reasons right,i mean you are feeling lonely without her right now and you leave her just before Christmas,it is not entirely your fault.both of you must have something that is not settle yet that is why you still have the pain in you.maybe by seeing her again and ask her to solve this out by sitting down and get a cup of coffee and try to talk things out.that way you will know why you got the pain and the blame goes into you.
2007-03-15 00:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by Ami Yumi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Okay Darren I am a 37 year old attractive female in a great relationship that has lasted 7 years so far so your going to want my advice...
1st why did you break up with her? Is it something she did or something you felt at the time was wrong? Did one of you cheat? Did you not want to buy her a Christmas present? Was she pressuring you to be at all her family holiday events before you were ready to?
I would need that info to give you sound advice but just going on the info you have given me it sounds like you have a fear of commitment...fear of intimacy, fear of partnership and trust ....
I need more info to go on otherwise thats all I can give ya buddy.
2007-03-14 23:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by CAW1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where you together a long time, If so, it's kinda' like losing a piece of yourself and you have to mourn the relationship. Even if your head knew it was the right decision to leave, your heart can take a while to catch up. My friend told me I needed to wait 10% of a relationship after ending it before I thought about getting involved again as that's about how long the heart takes (I was in a relationship for 4 years, I ended it, felt the same - after 5 months I started to feel much better)
2007-03-14 23:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by Hosebeast-ess to be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are a sissy. You don't say why you split from her but I assume you had good reason? Everyone feels bad after a break up, even if it was you that ended it. You obviously had a lot of feelings for her and these don't go away overnight. it will get better with time, my advice is stay busy and good luck with moving on x
2007-03-14 23:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by Thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you didn't realize what a great girl you had until you lost her. If you really feel that bad without her try to get her back. people make mistakes, breakups are not the same as death. Try being her friend first and see if that is what you miss or if you love the girl.
2007-03-14 23:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by cutie322434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u r still in love with her.
U miss her!!!
Why don't u phone her.
See how she is?
Who knows maybe she would like 2 see u again.
Go out and try to have a wonderful time.
Don't tell her that u love her from the first day, she will feel strange.
Try to start going out again.
Give her time, and then check out if she gives you opportunities to make your move.
I hope that goes well.
Good luck 2 you.
2007-03-14 23:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by iona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it everyone feels like that after breaking up with someone its called regret. Remember it was you that left her for a reason. If you want to get back together with her then ask her if she wants to start things up again QUICK before she finds somebody else
Good Luck xx
2007-03-14 23:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters I think u should ignore what Jackie said I dont think ur a sissy at all!
Maybe u feel this way cos ur used to having her around and now ur on ur own???
U will get used to it believe me, I broke up with my partner before xmas (he left me) and I was gutted but as time goes on u will forget....and prob like me enjoy the time to ur self??
2007-03-14 23:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you still love her. its that simple.
you dont give your reasons for leaving, but, if you still want her, tell her. Life is way too short, and you obviously still feel an incredible amount for her, Write to her if you feel you cant do it face to face, this way neither of you have to face a confrontational situation, and gives her space to digest this information and make a decision. You have nothing to loose here, its worth a try, good luck
2007-03-14 23:31:48 · answer #10 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we fall in love with what that person could be and not what they are. Perhaps you feel the loss of loving her but knowing that it cannot work. Sometimes life sucks, but hey, at least you are a caring compassionate person. All the best in moving on.
2007-03-14 23:30:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋