I'm 22yrs and I have a problem with dating. I never stay with a guy for more 4months and whenever things start to get serious I get nervous and break the relationship. At first I didn't think this was a problem but now I can see that I've lost so many great guys because of my fears. Please advise on what I should do to overcome this coz right now I'm single and have a guy who wants to try being in a relationship with me, I also want to try but I'm scared coz I might do what I always do. Please Help!
2007-03-14 23:24:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are afraid of commitment, and who isn't?
Such fears are faced by everybody, even poeple who are getting married have the same thoughts and the what ifs.
Don't let your fears overcome your strength and passion and life!
Commit to your guy and see how beautiful relationships can be.
2007-03-14 23:29:44 · answer #1 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take some time to analyze your fear.
What exactly is it you are scared of?
Are you scared that you will cheat?
Are you scared that he will cheat?
Are you scared that there is something about you he won't like?
Are you afraid that he will end up hurting you and so you are trying to hurt him before he hurts you.
Once you have found out what it is you are afraid of, find out why you have that fear. This will usually result from something that happened to you in the past.
Once you have discovered what it is you are afraid of and why you have that fear, talk to him and tell him about your fears. If he really is a great guy and wants you for more than sex, he will take the time to help you work through your fears, and help you build your trust in other people again.
2007-03-14 23:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by Spikey and Scruffy's Mummy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you have to realise what your real fear is about..and then figure out why you have this fear..what makes you scared about having a serious relationship anyway?.. you might need a counselor to help you work out your fears , sooner or later you will see how many good men you have shut out..
2007-03-14 23:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit lying to yourself. u didn't quit the relationships. guys did because there was smth wrong. instead of flattering yourself better find that flaw in u which makes everybody leave u
2007-03-14 23:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why you are doing what you do and stop doing it, otherwise tell guys you just want to be "only" friends.
2007-03-14 23:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you shouldn't really date... just be friends with benefits... no pressure, just fun!!!
2007-03-14 23:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋