My friend has been talking to this guy for a few weeks now. She's starting to develope an attraction to this cute guy who, i must admit, barely looks a day over 30. Although he seems genuine in his feelings for her, and she seems to be lighting up all over the place, I can't seem to get past their age differences. Do I warn her, try to stop her, including bringing her mama into this? Or do I leave her alone in her happiness and trust that she, an adult on the heels of 30, knows what she's doing?
2007-03-14 23:18:26 · 15 answers · asked by praycious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, this woman is a grown woman! Don't start drama and get her "mama" involved in this. Let her learn her own mistakes, she is 28! If she thinks it is love, let it be love. Age is nothing but a number.
2007-03-14 23:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by MissDivine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you bring her mama into it? Your friend is a grown woman, she knows what she wants. Why not be happy for her. If neither one of them have a problem with the age differance (which by the way is just a number & makes no differance until one of them is under 18 yrs old), then why should you have a problem with it?
2007-03-15 06:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by Ghost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say leave it alone. Attraction is a funny thing. Many women are attracted to a man who has some life experience, is stable and confident in who he is...and most of that comes over time, and with age. It's hard to find someone in your age bracket with those traits, and is willing to commit, yet still give you room to grow. Personally I'm nearly 46/male and i don't really see a problem for her....more for him in that she may not have the maturity or life experience to relate to him!...That would still have to be based on their chemistry and what works for both of them. I just wouldn't sweat it. In most societies other than the USA, women are encouraged to seek an older mate that is capable of taking care of her in all respects.
2007-03-15 06:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a 28y/o woman and a 46 y/o man could have a successful relationship. I know couples whose age difference are far more than theirs, and are happily married to date.
:-) your concern for your friend is typical, however it's for her to decide. I think at the age of 28, she's mature enough to know what's right and wrong for her... If she's happy, then why not be happy for her?
Unless your friend is in danger with this man, I don't think you should warn her neither her mom.
Don't worry... be happy. :-)
2007-03-15 07:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by botanreyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. Its not your job to save her from mistakes. She is aware of the age difference, shes the one who is dating him. WTF is it your business? She is your friend, not your daughter. And even then, she is a grown adult and she can make her own decisions. If you are really against it, support her. When you voice your true opinions about being against her relationship, it will only make that relationship stronger because they are in defense mode. Just because you have a problem with the age difference, doesn't mean she does. Really, why would you want to ruin or sabotage your friends relationship?
2007-03-15 06:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There ain't no problem if a guy and a woman's age deference is too much... but u must make sure that they love each other.. What happens if the man already have a wife?? u see what I mean?
2007-03-15 06:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by CELiNE:] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone! It is NONE of your business. For gods sake she's 28yo, completely old enough to make her own decisions. What makes you think that a 28yo and a 46yo are that different in maturity....they are both grown adults at this point.
Get a life of your own and stay the hell out of theirs. You make me sick!
2007-03-15 11:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by scott b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a grown woman, it is her decision and you need to stay out of her relationship and not interfere if you are her friend then you support her and stop trying to get in between her happiness, she can figure things out on her own.
2007-03-15 06:22:37 · answer #8 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stop her but you might bring it to her attention as to whether they have spent time talking about the furture and facing the problems ahead and in time there will be many. They need to know how each other will react to problems arising and how they will work to resolve them.
2007-03-15 06:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 26 and my bf is 40. We are been dating for 10 years and now plan to wed. Leave it be and just lighten up yourself. They might hit it off so one cant say.
2007-03-15 06:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋