Let me start with a little background of my life right now. I am married to my husband and have been fr coming up on two years now, our relationship was rough in the beginning but is great now. We have been trying to have a baby for quite some time now, and due to my health problems, may not be able to! In fact have been told that we maybe shouldn't even try, but haven't ruled it out yet! Anyway, he is adament about his OWN child-not adoption or whatever, his child, but is adament to have a child-he's the only grandson on either side, etc!
With that being said, I had this dream last night, but have had similar ones in the recent past. It was where we had split up-divorced and then remarried, but were still friends, oddly enough. In fact he and his new wife and their children were meeting me and my new hubby and his children for a bbq at my new home. We were all good friends and joked about things and seemed to be having fun!
2007-03-14 23:11:45 · 10 answers · asked by jen 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
What's worse is that the man I was with is a friend of ours now and his wife. And I say it's him, but I couldn't even see his face, but it was their house! And I even work with him and he's married with children, and I'm friends with his wife! But in the dream something had happened to her (like she died or something). Anyway, it's weird! And I say it's him but like I said, I can't actually see his face, nor can I see the face of the woman my husband is with, but she her body and all looks like another friend of ours.
I know it sounds insane, but I woke up soooo upset and panicked!I was crying and just extremely upset! I'm thankful I didn't wake up my husband, because he would be concerned that I was having a dream about someone else!
Please help me understand this. Let me know if you need more info! It is so upsetting to have these types of dreams, that me and my husband are with other people!
2007-03-14 23:16:55 · update #1
And before anyone asks, i have no interest int he other man at all! We are only friends with them! I have never even looked twice at him, that way!
2007-03-14 23:19:07 · update #2
No he has never hinted that he would leave me. I did however, give him the option when we first found out! I told him that now was the time, if he coudln't handle it, then he should walk out now! That was 7 months ago. He swears he will stay no matter, but I know how much it means to him! He brought kids up on our first date, for Heavens sake! And his entire family greets me with the baby question, so we know how they feel! These dreams are just so unnerving!
2007-03-14 23:24:05 · update #3
First of all, ignore the negative comments. I think you're just feeling insecure at the moment. Think about it, you have a ton of different emotions mixed up in the situation right now. And for the most part, dreams cannot be taken literally. Theres always symbolism and signs..etc etc. I mean people have written book after book after book on just "what dreams mean". So there's no way to know what your exact dream means to you..but don't take it word for word. Because you dreamt that you divorced, doesn't mean you're going to be divorced. I once dreamt that my head turned into a pickle at work....it didn't happen *grins*. Work thru things one day at a time. Keep trying for that baby!
Best of luck.
"Dreaming that you are getting a divorce indicates that you need to differentiate between things in your life and prioritize them. Alternatively, it may mean that you have a fear of separation. Also you may be not be satisfied with your present relationship. Divorce dreams may reflect real-life events and the stress that it brings. You may be wondering if you have made a mistake in some situation or decision Divorce dreams suggest a transitional phase or a time to change your old habits."
2007-03-22 20:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by }{PurpleLipz}{ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the baby thing is stressing you out!! You seem u truly love hubby now that the rough days are past. If his family and others just Back-Off you probably concieve. 2 women in my family went threw this, B. was 35 diabetic amniocentricic in past (no spell) only told husband she wanted kids. K. another in fam. 36 diabetic auto immune dis. heart condition panic dis orders and degenerative spine. K. never used protection b/c told she would not get preg. with her husband 12 yrs gets pregnant no help no plans!! niether diabetic mom lost eyesight which was a risk! both delivered a little early B.'s eyesight got rough during end of pregcy but no long term loss. they both have great kids now!! B.has 2 kids15 mos. apart. If conception is the problem any help you get from your DR. Do not discuss w any family it seems hard and harsh but for u and hubby it will be exciting. at 6 mos tell them.You want ur hub to have his baby that is why dream comes back??
2007-03-21 16:01:03 · answer #2 · answered by Dotr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are paranoid.
You are afraid of circumstances that may or may not come to pass. Whether they do or not isn't so important right now though: You are getting into a dangerous state of mind which could begin to influence your behaviour and physical health......
I would recommend trying to put your worries aside and making the most of the moment as it stands.
As for your attempts at procreation.... if it doesn't work then don't push it. If you cannot breed then it is probably due to bad genes, and getting help to breed despite that will probably only result in you passing the fertility problems to the next generation. Perhaps you should try harder to convince your husband that adoption is the way forward, as it sounds that his instincts are getting the better of him. Its not healthy... really.
2007-03-15 00:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by Nihilist Templar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd guess you are afraid that this is going to happen so you're dreaming and thinking about it. If your husband is inflexible on the issue of having (biological) children and you're unable to have them, then that is an impossible situation for him to put you in. No wonder it's making you insecure and anxious. Did you two ever talk about what he would do if you could never have a baby? Did he ever hint that he would leave you? I'm sure you will have no peace of mind until you are reassured about it.
2007-03-14 23:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by charmedchiclet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how this dream would have freaked you out! Do try to remember, though, that it was just a dream. I wouldn't put too much stock in it if I were you! It sounds like maybe you're feeling insecure. Are you afraid that your husband will leave you if you aren't able to have his biological children? If so, tell him what you're feeling. The key to a good marriage is good comunication. If the things he is saying are making you anxious and causing you to have nightmares, then please talk to him about how you feel.
2007-03-19 10:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People say that your dreams are about what you were thinking. I think that maybe you were so upset about not being able to have a baby that it upset your husband and you thought he was better off without you. By thinking this, you maybe just thought about how you all could be just friends, and your husband was with another woman and you were with another man because they are just people who can make you happy.
2007-03-21 10:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by casey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ocean To see an ocean in your dream, represents the state of your emotions and feelings.? It is indicative of some spiritual refreshment,? tranquility and renewal. Tornados To see a tornado in your dream, suggests that you are experiencing some extreme emotional outbursts and temper tantrums. Is there a situation or relationship in your life that may be potentially destructive? To dream that you are in a tornado, signifies that you are feeling overwhelmed and out of control. You will be met with a series of disappointments for the next week or so. Your plans will be filled with complications. To see several tornadoes in your dream, represent people around you who are prone to violent outbursts and shifting mood swings. It may also symbolize a volatile situation or relationship Family To see your own family in your dream, represents security, warmth and love. Consider also the significance of a particular family member or the relationship you have with them *hope these help you out! X3
2016-03-28 23:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give your dreams any special power. Last week I had a dream that I was Britney Spears and I'm a 37 y/o male. I think that just seeing all those mags at the check out made me dream this.
2007-03-21 04:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was just a nightmare. I have dreams like that too. Sometimes you see your worst fear in your dream. However, I know for a fact that no dream I had ever came true. Just look at it as a bad movie you saw.
2007-03-18 18:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are on the road to a divorce.
2007-03-14 23:17:32 · answer #10 · answered by Phillip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋