I met this girl a few months ago. She told me that she was tired of the way she was badly treated in her past relation (where he cheated on her, put her through a lot of pain). I decided to give it a shot with her even though was adviced not to by my closest friends. We started dating and she cheated on me a couple of times with the same ex. I always overlooked the scenario and gave her another chance after she apologized for her mistakes. We finally broke up recently and the reason was her ex once again. Am so heart broken and dont know what to do. I know her ex has been making these false promises to her and is saying exactly what she wants to hear. It has messed us up but dont know why but I still tend to miss her. Do u think she will come back. Do u feel that a chance of us getting back together exists. An honest answer is what i need. I kinda sound desperate bout her but its not that way at all. Its not that I cant start dating someone else but that I cant see her hurt again
2007-03-14 22:44:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't help who you love, however, you can help being hurt. It is my firm belief that most people create their own problems. She is creating hers by constantly going back to her ex, and you are creating yours by taking her back everytime. You need to decide for yourself if you are more important than all that. She has her own drama going on, you need to let it go. If you choose to take her back remember that you are the one that decided you aren't worthy of someone who won't treat you that way and cause you pain.
2007-03-14 22:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by penelopejanepitstop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends what she thinks if she thought she made a mistake then maybe she might come back, she probably went back because there was still a spark between them and maybe she wanted to give it another shot.
if there is fate and something between you guys im pretty sure you still have hope.
sometimes you just have to let go of someone when they found their half of the soul. if you cant see her hurt again why dont you try and be beside her like a guide or a friend so whenever she feels depressed or sad why dont you cheer her up or comfort her. soon enough she will be able to know how big her mistake was to leave you behind and no that she regrets. if you still love her then you should keep your hopes up and show it to her that you care about her more than the other guy.
show how that your the one that will be there forever for her
show her that you would don anything for her
show her that you will give up anything for her
therfore in other words show her that if she was your girl friend you would make a commiment to your relationship.
im not sure if this really help but yeah..... good luck in the future!!!
2007-03-15 06:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by alway5_with_u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear heart broken.
in all honesty i dont see any hope of you two being together and having a future.
your girl is not kind of mature.
she wanted you as a shoulder to cry on.
because she wasnt able to do so with her ex.
i guess she loves her ex and was using you as a sunstitute.
if her ex is making false promises to her and she is believing him ...
i bet she wudnt listen to your voice of reason just now.
and one thin gi would like to say in all honesty:
always a girl who oves you for what you are is capable of fulfilling you emotionally.
not some one who is using you as a substitute.
still reason out with her n be bit more patient.
the future turn of events will make it clear to you where her heart lies.
be a little less emotional and view your situation objectively. you will solve your problem .
best of luck.
2007-03-15 06:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The injuries we do and the injuries we suffer are seldom weighed on the same scales. Give her time to sort out things and recognize her priorities. We cant make someone realize our worth. Be positive about Life.
2007-03-15 08:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok reli, honestly, man u have to move on. i've been there done htat, and i'm atually go through wat u are. and for me i'm trying to move on , and its working. ur hurt, u feel abused, but theres nothing u can do about it now, forgive and don't forget. sucess is the best revenge. go do something crazy and be good at it. live life. remember, life goes on without her. and personally she sounds like a b*tch for doing what she did. sooo yeahh shes a b*tch. lol. bye =]
2007-03-15 06:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by CurioslyPerfect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you cannot let go.
Get over it, go get a life, find someone who is worth your love.
Plain and simple. Why do you make it complicated.
2007-03-15 08:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by thinker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude! HOT or NOT! you've gotta move on!! I'm there with ya right now! My b@tch cheated on me after 4 years. Piss on Her!
2007-03-15 05:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on dude.
2007-03-15 06:20:51 · answer #8 · answered by Fun Loving Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got Penis envy, that's all it is.
2007-03-15 05:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋