I started going out with my GF 3 years ago. Now we are 19 , still virgins and I'm dying to have sex with her . I talk it over with her and she also doesn't seem to have any objection on having sex . She's kind of interested in doing it too. But the thing is we are not sure if we should have sex or not because we haven't get married yet and if we feel kind of addicted (who is not addticed to sex ?) after it we'll have difficulties finding a place to do it , love hotels are not good at all . The fact that she's living very far from my place keeps us from doing it often and Our parents are kind of strict concerning this issue . One more thing is that we fear that there will be some changes in our feeling after having sex the first time, like one of us will feel down or hurt like some story I've heard before.
We are deeply in love and want to get married in about 3 or 4 years in the future, so I think this issue should be consider carefully or it may spoil our relationship
Thx for answer
2007-03-14 22:17:04 · 15 answers · asked by Nameless guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I seriously think you should consider if you guys want to have pre-marital sex at such a young age. It is not wrong but I think there really maybe some changes after that. And I probably practice "always save the best for the last" theory. This is good for both parties. For guys, there shall be no regrets but for ladies, we may think losing virginity to someone not precious is not worth it. Pls think of the consequences in any case she got pregnant if there's no protection taken.
2007-03-14 22:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have asked us means that you are not yet sure if you want this. You've been together for 3 years without it and would like to get married in about 3 years time.
I would advise you to wait till you are sure that you really want to have it, then you can go ahead. Once you are ready, you will not even have reason to ask about it.
2007-03-15 05:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by iowomugisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and get some because you are dying to have sex with her, you must get it or someone will giv it to you and you will end up liking that other person, you are over 18 and you are old enogh to do it. I actually had mine at 16. Nowadays you have to do it before marriage to asertain you sexually satisfaction. sex my friend plays a major role in marriage and relationships, you will find out later in a few years if not this year. Girls like sex, its jus that they are shy to say it coz they think we will call em sluts if they express their feeling for it.
Go hit her boy or someone will do it for you. Dont forget to buy some condoms
2007-03-15 05:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by Stargate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur getting married in about 3-4 year more.....y won't u both wait first until u get married? cuz aftr u both r husband n wife, nobody will say 'no' to u both in order to hav sex.
Yet, if u do sex now, the 'fun' that should be aftr u hav married will be gone and these 'fun' will never appear if u hav done in before u're married......remember that..
2007-03-15 05:48:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look nobody knws as wat 2 happen in future.I m not washing ur mind but still responsibility is also something.U 2 r just 19yrs old,m not saying dat u r a kid n can't have sex but first of all give preference to other important things if u really wanna marry her like education,good job.
Watz d hurry man.
2007-03-15 05:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Fun Loving Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she said shes wants to try it? and you are still asking us??
GO FOR IT DUDE!
as for the spoiling of the relationship later, i know u have heard really bad stories, but this is YOUR story, and hopefully if you guys understand each other for 3 years with plans of getting married and everything, then i dont think the relationship will lose its fire. In Fact once you try it, you can try sex with fantasies on it to spark it out more. and theres a gazillion other things than sex that can also bring spark to both of you, so dont worry about too much sex kills relationship, that doesnt happens.
2007-03-15 05:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
why you two are afraid
you two seems so matured but talk in a chidish way
all your assumption are true and ut happens like that but only where love understanding is missing
you may opt out of having sex defore marriage but that should not be the reason
best of luck
2007-03-15 05:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by Caring 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no harm with premarital sex but you both need to take ownership for each other's feeling, love and are committed. Have you both consider engagements? Take precaution becos you don't want to have unwanted pregnancy. As for venue, that, you both will need to sort that out.
2007-03-15 05:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is the way to express your love in other ways. Let sex be the other form u take to show your love and affection for one another. Once you feel the warmth it brings, you will see that it is ok to have sex in the relationship, its healthy and can also keep you happy in the relationship even when things are going bad. Sex is the universal key to happiness.
2007-03-15 05:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by S man 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
no, don't lead your mind thru temptation. what if she get pregnant, are you ready to become a father of ur child? wait for the right time not now.
2007-03-15 05:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by PG_13 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋