how can i learn to trust my gf more...is it possible to learn 2 trust?...i have no reason 2 not trust her but she is so close 2 her guy friends...i no they dont do anything but it jus makes me wonder wen she is so close 2 her guy friends...i lost her once because i didnt trust her and i am going to lose her again if i dont learn 2 trust her....any good advice??? thanks
2007-03-14 21:53:21 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to her. Talk to her friends. You seem to be misunderstanding the connection that they have, and perhaps spending more time with them as a group will help you to see their dynamic.
Since you seem to understand that you have an unrealistic trust problem with her, she will most likely be willing to work with you to solve it.
2007-03-14 21:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by Bonnie A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think everybody knows that without trust a relationship is doomed!! u cant just trust her overnight but no offence but it sounds like ur insecure your self and your afraid she will leave you or hurt you. Love and life is all about taking risks, its ok 2 have guy friends and to be close to them if she can reasssure that nothing ever has or ever will happen with these friends then i dont think you should be worried. You said you lost her already and im going to take a guess and say it was because you were jealous..no girl likes a mad possesive boyfriend. If you like her that much try and make the effort to get friendly with these guy friends of hers...see for your self what way she is with them and that will surely put your mind at ease if she has nothing to hide..
2007-03-14 21:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, there is a differnce between having male friends and hanging out with males.....
All you have to do is trust her, i know it is not easy but worth a trial and if she loves u she is urs no matter how many male friends she may have....... You should discuss it with her and see how she reacts and what her answers look like, but at the same time try to show respect and trust when discussing this with her.
It is all about trust...you should learn to trust her or else u will lose your sanity.....
Good luck
2007-03-14 22:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by Natasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just chill out. Seriously, are you doing anything that isn't necessarily trustworthy?
I only ask because some people, when they are lying or cheating, will project that onto someone else to make it like it's their fault.
Look at it this way:
If you don't trust her, you could lose her, and you'd be hurt.
If you do trust her, she'll (hopefully) stay, and all will be well.
If you do trust her, and she let's you down then you'll be hurt, and you'll know for sure.
Either way, you'll be fine... so don't worry so much about it!
Hope this helps!
2007-03-14 22:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by p37ry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened to you in the past to make you not trust her? Your girl is going to have male friends and you have to accept that is what they are; just friends. If she has never done anything to make you not trust her except have close male friends then the issue is with you, not her and i would suggest you go to counseling and figure out why you have this inability to trust your girlfriend.
2007-03-14 22:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust blindly dear.thats the way.perhaps someone will say u becoming a fool.no matter.in this type of realtion trust blindly.In an indian epic theres a story a woman and a man were playing cards.suddenly her hnds just jerked the table and the cards were about to fall down.the man suddenly tried to catch them but got his hands over her bare stomach and her ornaments aroun d navel broke and fell down.when her hubby entered the room what he sees is his best friend pressing his wife's belly and her ornaments falling down.hubby came calmly and took those cards down there and arranged it for them to continue playing.later when his wife asked y he dint doubt them he told withgout any reason he trust his wife,whatever she does, he never lost trust in her.
2007-03-14 22:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have the right to be worried, since you've lost her once and she's keep doing this that makes you difficult to trust her. Have a conversation with her, tell her how you feel about her relationship with her guy friends, and if she insists to do what she's doing now without considering your feeling, then there's something fishy about her. Otherwise, you should learn to be less worried and paranoid, do it slowly. Good luck!
2007-03-14 22:02:46 · answer #7 · answered by justanickname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust jus comes, its a product of your conscience, you said exactly what I was thinking, she is doing something that you dont like, being close to other guys, Never allow a woman to be too close to other guys, their are wolves out there waiting to prey on other peoples girls and they will put her in a situation she cant resist, simply tell her to distance herself and you will find yourself natuarally beggining to trust her
2007-03-14 23:03:57 · answer #8 · answered by Stargate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT TRUST GIRLS!!!
Can you trust yourself 100% the answer is no.then how can you expect your girlfriend do as you expect
actually to trust or not to trust isnt point.
to love and find hapiness even for a short time is the point.got it?
everything changes, its the way game goes.
2007-03-14 22:03:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
really, your gut instinct on things is usually acurate...so by just not having the ability to trust her, seems like more of a gut reaction. you are probably really picking up on something that she is doing something, but you want to believe her when she says it's all innocent. it may be worth it to just get out now...why attempt to trust when everything in you tells you not to, only to set yourself up for a big let down.
2007-03-14 21:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋