how to control my child when he gets violent?

Question

mostly he quarrels with his sister who is four year elder to him.My son is 12 years old.he troubles her when she is studying.when he gets violent he tries to hit her with what things he gets in his hand.he tries to throw her book or will hide it somewhere.But after sometime he cools down .he is very stubborn .He wants things to go according to his wishes.

Answer 1

What are you doing when he is pulling this with your daughter, especially during her studies? What are your actions when he has these episodes? Better late than never, it is time you practice what is called discipline! I am not talking about some of the comments talking about putting tape over his mouth or putting rope around him...that is just aggression on aggression, wont get you anywhere in life or lesson regarding him, other than teaching him that more drastic violence is acceptable. Make rules that have consequences, which are discussed and set during a calm time. Follow through on the rules/consequences when they are broken. Take things away from him, ground him, if it is completely out of control, involve professionals. Your home is where he, as well as your daughter, learn how to be self sufficient responsible adults, and what to accept in a relationship with others. Right now you are teaching your daughter to accept abusive behavior from the opposite sex, is that really what you want for her? From her view point, no matter what she would do to protect herself it isnt going to work, if her father/mother cant help her, than why would she think she should be able to do anything. Now, what you are teaching your son right now is that he has no limitations, he can abuse, break, lose complete control of himself, and its just all ok. To be in the real world he needs to know that he has limitations, cant just do whatever he wants, when he wants, and to whomever he wants to do it to. Unless you plan on taking care of him the rest of his life, paying for his housing, maids, etc.., than it is time to take a strong stand with him and teach him some of the things he should have already learned. It also sounds like he has too much time on his hands and might need to have some chores & study time of his own designated. Be the parent, not his buddy!

Answer 2

ignore him for some days. During this period tell your daughter to avoid him and try to save her from him, not to respond to his any attitude.When he will torture her, she should leave that place and go to another room and close the door. See what is happening.. If he cools down after this period, then you will come to know that the idea has worked. If you see he is getting more violent then continue not to love him. I think he will improve. If it doesn't work, talk to him when he is cool. Try to make him understand that if he behaves in this way, people will consider him mad. The thing will improve slowly.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

OK big problem lock him out side or lock the door or take him to a Doctor or the best thing keep him amused

Answer 5

She is 4 years older them him and she nor you have put a end to this?

Answer 6

tie his hands behind his back. tie them to his jeans if you have to. he can SIT. if he wants to be loud then tape over the mouth! once he figures out that you aren't playing his game it will stop.
he needs to learn that life will not always go HIS way.

Answer 7

tied him up in a chain. sister always gort bullied by brother whether its younger or older =.= sickening =.=
PS.mayb you can tell him u got onli one sister and u cant even take good care of her. and blabla he will understand...
but dun whip childern..u will scares them

Answer 8

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