my bf broke up with me 3 weeks ago (was together for 1.5 years) coz he said that he has lost the love feelings and that he has no motivation to go on.
he has never been with a girl for so long. he has some relationships before, but i was the first girl whom he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. he was very happy with me, he even has the greatest sex with me, i was perfect for him, he said.
few days before he broke up with me, he was confused, but he said that he's gonna regret so much if he breaks up, coz he knows that he can't find any girls who is so nice and who loves him so much.
but he still broke up with me finally. what are guys thinking? so he can just break this relationship up even he knew that we were a perfect couple? how can a guy get over these happy moments and me if i'm so perfect for him? will he miss me and regret??????????
2007-03-14 21:35:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
SInce he has never had a serious relationship before you, there is always the chance that he was simply frightened by the feelings that you gave him. Having someone who fits you so perfectly can be a daunting experience.
The reasons he broke up with you can be numerous and only he knows why for sure. He has gone through his "honeymoon" period, and is perhaps wondering if his love is gone, or has simply changed forms. He may just need time to regain the forsight he lost being in your relationship. Sometimes time apart can work wonders for seeing what you may have let slip in your life when with someone else.
2007-03-14 21:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Bonnie A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one, i dont even understand why he broke up with you if your so perfect for one another.
Secondly, why are you so passive, if he is breaking up for no apparent reason, you 2 talk it out until there is something legitmate or until you get to the root of his problem with himself.
It seems this guy doesnt know what he wants, and that is not the type of man you build a life with.
Also, if i wereyou, i wouldnt be so quick to take him, that just implies thatyour always waiting and avaialble for him.
Unhealthy relationship.
2007-03-14 21:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys were together that long maybe he thinks that he will find someone better out there but since you were his longest relationship he will compare every girl to you and the things you to did. he will come to his senses and realize that you were great. but when he does be strong and make it hard for him to get you and your trust back. just remember be strong and dont forget above it all you need is yourself to be happy.
2007-03-14 21:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probley just wanting abit of time alone, dont worry if you keep out of his way & carry on with your own life im sure he will be back. but just try not to let him know how upset you are coz it'l only push him more away. Good luck
2007-03-14 21:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by sheila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is playing with emotions. Drop me and move on. You deserve someone better. Wether he regrets or not is for him to sort it out. None of your business; you've been hurt yourself so you should take care of yourself first!
2007-03-14 21:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE HE WILL MISS YOU. MEN FREAK OUT MORE IF YOU DON'T CALL OR HAVE ANY CONTACT WITH THEM EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE DYING INSIDE..........BUT HERE IS THE BIG QUESTION WILL YOU GO BACK TO HIM?REMEMBER THIS PAIN THAT HE CAUSED YOU THERE IS A REASON PEOPLE JUST BREAK UP AND HIS REASON IS JUST AN EXCUSE
2007-03-14 21:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say, I feel that he will regret and come back to you. But should you be welcoming?! I don know!
2007-03-14 21:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by mujdad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is he's already told you with out telling you. Men are simple. If their happy, hungry, or horny and they say it that's exactly what they mean.
I've been there so many times. A famous singer whom I'm inlove with and I got set up on a blind date the other night, He said this is not going to happen, then he told me how much he lovedme, then we went to the party, got me drinks, and off and on acted like an ***, and I had to get a ride home. 1. I know he was drunk, because he was very buzzed. 2. I know he's not ready for me right now because, his career he's still working on, as I am in the entertainment industry too, and he know's that he's very emotional about his grandmother's death last year, he's still not over it, stressed, and takes care of his family members.
I know because the alcohol he was truthful, that he does love me, I also know that's it's not a good time in his life right now, so I have to wait. I've waited almost 10 years, so I can wait a little longer because, I know that we have some of the same friends, know and work with some of the same people, and that's the universe trying to tell us something. I'm aware of it, he won't listen, but I have to step back and know he has to heal himself and get over what has happened in his life, in order for us to be together and so, I have to wait.
Your guy, may love you, you may have had the best sex, he says he know's he's going to regret it. However, if he know's your the right person 1) A. He might need to date some other women a get crapped on to come back to you and know for sure your the ONE.
2) He might be in love with someone else and is just afraid to tell you
3) He doesn't know what he wants. He's confused. Yes, he loves you but, he needs some space. it's kinda like this sometimes when your a bear in the woods, and you leave very young and are raised by foxes, you need to see another bear to realize your still a bear from the woods.
4) The truth is is it's meant to be it will be... If it's not he's doing you the biggest favour not wasting your time anymore, and you are free to have fun, date other guys and meet the one whom is for you... Sometimes, not getting what you want is a blessing believe me I know. So, my advice girl is. 1. Get on your hottest, sexiest outfit, go and get your hair and make up done at the mall, pamper yourself nail manicure, and pedicure, then paint the town... I guarantee you'll meet some nice men whom will take your mind off this guy. I'm in the same boat... Don't call him for at least 3 months. You can call or email after a few months to say hello but, keep it short...
Don't call and block your number to see if he's with another girl, don't ask everyone you know to find out what's the deal... Because he'll suspect you and your not a child.. If you see him out say hello, give him a hug, say nice to see you and walk away, and don't look back. Act like you don't care.. If he calls, your busy you have a date... If he asks with whom just say your broken up and it's none of your concern anymore....
Even if your at home eating bon bons, and oainting your nails, your getting ready for a date... That's it.... My ex- whom I wanted so badly kept cheating on me, I met someone else and it helped me get over Ricardo, then I got under another guy to get over Rob, What's funny is almost 4 years later Ricardo still wants me back... If he calls, I may chat a minute but, I'm getting ready to go out, or I just don't pick up the phone, and now I still talk to Rob as a friend, and The famous singer got me over both of them...
Fill up your daily routine, work out, buy new clothes, put away all old pictures and reminders of him. If you have stuff of his put it in a box, and ship it to him via mail or even better have a friend of your drop it off for you, and they'll report how he acted... Even better get a guy whom he doesn't know to drop it off for you.. My friend so and so, wanted me to drop this off to you since, your not together anymore, take care now....
But, the truth is don't dare do this yourself... It'll make you look desperate and will feed his ego.. My blog ask aubrey will be up soon, and the web site is going to be built soon so you can look it up...
The main idea is to stay as busy as you can, set up lots of dates even if your not interested in dating.. You don't have to sleep with the guy if you do protect yourself always, and most importantly don't talk about your EX....
God Bless,
Write things down in a journal everyday if you feel like in a year and many more you can look back and see how you've grown one day you might be snapping your finger's saying I' don'y rember what was his name?
Aubrey
2007-03-14 22:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by mycanyonlake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup and the time apart will make it that much stronger when he asks for you to come back to him :)
2007-03-14 21:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by MaryAnn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋