It is said that if a man says "I'm not ready to be in a relationship" it really means "I'm not interested in a relationship with you, but I'm letting you down easy."
I know a couple in their early 20s who have been together for over 3 years. She thinks he is the one, and he says she's "marriage material." However, he tells her that he's "not ready to get married yet or for a long time" whenever it comes up. She suspects that he's only staying in thier relationship because it is comfortable and convenient for him at this point in his life.
Guys - Does the same principle apply to marriage? If a guy says, "I'm not ready to get married" to a long-term girlfriend, does it really mean "I don't see myself marrying you"?
2007-03-14 21:32:55 · 10 answers · asked by Miss B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"I'm not ready" usually means he wants to have sex with other people.
2007-03-14 21:35:15 · answer #1 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage and long term relationships are different.
When someone is not ready for marriage, that means that they are financialy, psychologically, emotionally etc not ready. Marriage is a responsibility to take care of wife/husband, children, finances...etc. Marriage requires strong commitment from both sides, but if one is still shakey about it, it better never happens.
In a relationship, the same applies, with the difference that you are not a fully pledged wife/husband, and you don't have the same responsibility like a wife/husband does.
2007-03-14 21:51:34 · answer #2 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy says he isn't ready, he is definitely not ready. No that doesn't necessarily mean he never wants to marry, but it means that he simply isn't comfortable taking that step yet. After 3 years that isn't a good sign for sure, but doesn't mean he might not ever be ready. Early 20's is still very young for marriage.
2007-03-14 21:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry and if you're not strong I might to tell you go away before is too late but you're still young you can still make your life at 40, there so much to live for, who says there has to be a family how 'bout spirituality experimentation, Philosophical Anthropology get better to get better, date a Doctor a Trumph a Presidential candidate, Is and will always be their (Men) loss, never know what they really want -priority-important, they think like apes, sex it's all that matters and trying to get the best looking gal that makes them look good in society, It's all an ACT, yeha that's right, sorry but this individual likes to know he's loved take advantage of who ever falls in his ACT-web take all they need until something better arrives or they get tired -used to the relationship maybe they have a better idea how to marry the first lady, -if you want mr right you better be and much better inteligent sexy well dressed ,educated, Mrs right, Dump him before he dump you and get somebody better and shove it in his face- LOL I got carried away, it's up to your inteligent desition, life so short to worrie about small little life events, it's for the better you still surrounded by people who love you lean on their shoulder BUT no tears-do like Betty. Have a nice life.
2007-03-17 13:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by gacj5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"not ready" means talking about the 'now'. taking it too far would mean another. accept the former definition & enjoy the relationship as it is. .. ei the couple is only in their early 20s. this is not the time to worry too much whether he will marry her or not. sure you want security but pushing the other person to decide about it may only drive him away completely. For now, be there for each other & enjoy the moments. Not for long, he may enjoy it too much to realize that he can't imagine life without her anymore.....
2007-03-14 21:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It carries one of two meaning dependent on the guy and the reasons he gives. One he says this as a I just wanna get laid but don't expect me to be there when you wake up sort of thing, usually you can tell when all he talks about other than that is pretty much sexual based. The other is the guy who put it all out on the line for a beautiful woman and she crushed him and he genuinely feels he is not ready to try again but is still curious about you.
-NmD!
2007-03-14 21:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd think that he's not ready to commit, leaving his options open, messing around on the side, or having a bout of nervousness and self-doubt, which would be highly improbable.
2007-03-14 21:37:13 · answer #7 · answered by Marcao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't work the way you do. We don't play silly mind-games. If a guy says he's not ready, it means he's not ready. That's it.
2007-03-14 21:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its true..its convenient for him at this point in his life.
Guys are\were\will always be afraid of commitment!unless they feel that their time is running out!
2007-03-14 21:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by HypNotikA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means im on the rag
2007-03-14 21:35:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋