advice on love?

Question

i love this guy. we used to be in love. but recently ive been feeling that we just havent had as much fun. i brought it up and hes told me that he feels the same way. we really still care lots about eachother i just dont know what to do. i know it can work if i put more effort into it but im panicking at the moment

yes weve talked about it. and at the moment the main crisis is wondering if ill ever enjoy just being with him again (im fairly bored at the moment). i do want a commited relationship. and im willing to do things to make it more fun. was just asking if people think that things can work out if things have got so bad so quickly (weve been together for a year-ish)

Answer 1

maybe its just a case of the "honey-moon-period" (the first 6 months of a relationship) being over now.
if you both love each other , you just need to find some fun things to do together that you both enjoy

Answer 2

it is hard when we become "comfortable" in a relationship and it is easy to take each other for granted and to stop making the effort, its not even like we do this conciously. Try to be more spontaneous and plan special nights in or out, perhaps cook a special meal with no interuptions and just talk, remember what your dreams were with each other and go over memories of how and why you fell in love, you have both recognised the problem which is an indication that you both still click and can read each other, you have the basis for a fab relationship you just have to put in more effort to prevent things from going stale, good luck you clearly want this to work and you can make it happen with a little more effort to put the spice back in

Answer 3

You both have gotten to the comfortable with each other part of the relationship. Don't stress, it will happen to every couple eventually, you gotta keep the spark alive, start going on dates again and dress up flashy for each other. Remember what you like doing together and keep it up, get some more sexy outfits and let your guy pick them out and you do the same for him, then go to dinner and talk, talk about any thing and every thing, then go home and screw like rabbits, often.

Answer 4

settle for what you have. don't say you USED to be in love. Say "I Love You". just get a hobby, a life, try something new, something old, allow love to be one part of your life, but not the biggest or only part.
stop your desire, and abandon your possesions, and be truley free.
Things arn't always what they seem. You gotta ask yourself: is it worth it? Because the day comes, Earth Makers gonna come down and look right in your F*UCKing heart, and then you better know what it is you're doing. are you a human being or just some hungry ghost out there.

Answer 5

A relationship based on physical attraction and fun like yours is sure to run dry in the months or years to come. Maybe you should re-think about your relationship again and try to look into your common interests instead. Things you like, and things you don't like. Maybe a conversation with each other about your thoughts and ideals in life would make it sound interesting and maybe you need to know each other more.

Answer 6

That's called natural progression. Of course it's not so much fun, you've settled and got used to each other. If it's fun you're after, move on and find yourself another boyfriend, there are plenty out there. If it's love and a committed relationship you are after, this is it.

Answer 7

No more mystery between you ... is the reason you both are feeling in that way... you still liking each other, more than before, do you believe in that? But is true! So go on when you feel that again, try to impress yourselves, make surprises to each other, that works ...

Answer 8

i know the feeling-my boyfriend and i have just split for the same reason, although i really wanted to try again, if i were you I would decide what you really want and go for it. If it's him then fight and if its not, then get out before it gets too hurtful. You need to make a decision though or he'll make it for you.

Answer 9

If u really love him don't u ever give up on him .
just follow ur heart .
And tell him the truth .
That :
u love him
u wanna spend more time with him
Or :
if u don't want to tell the truth or afraid to harte his feelings .
Plan to hangout somewhere or going on a vacation .
Best wishes F

Answer 10

If you're friends, stay that way. The feelings might come back, or they might not. But if they don't, you'll still have a friend, if you try & force the issue you'll probably end up hating each other.