The story is long but I was upset at work texted my bf about this girl making fun of me, he ends up asking if she's hot or nasty(?) I get upset and later he texts me to go to the movies. I would be late because I was working. The movie started at 10:30 I got there at 11. He said he would wave at me when I got there. He texted me the row he was sitting in. I get there look around, but the theater is packed and dark. I can't see him and he's not acknowledging me. he turned off his phone so I sit up front. 20min later he msgs me I said I'm sitting up front. He doesn't come to me at all so after the movie, I'm in tears and walk out. He's so upset he wants to break up over it. He can't get past it that I walked out and I hurt him so bad. I don't know how I can get him to forgive me for doing that or to get him to even reconsider. I need a ton of advice on how to get him back because I might have a chance to talk to him in person tomorrow. Please please help I have no idea what to do.
2007-03-14 21:12:09 · 7 answers · asked by Cheryl K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try talkin to him
2007-03-14 21:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by Betty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let's review here, and then answer...
You were upset over some other gal and was looking for emotional support. Your BFs reply was to ask you if she's hot... No emotional support. Just asked you if he can be with her instead of you. That's a hint, darling.
You go to the movies to meet him, but can't find him. His cell is turned off. Well, at least he's courtious. Only a jackass would be talking and texting during a movie. He did tell you what row he was on. You said it was dark... but not if you looked down that row or not. Did you try to spot him?
Later, he messages you and you tell him where you are. But, he doesn't come to you. Again, though, I give him some credit, because it's not really nice to go walking all over the place during a movie. It interrupts the other people watching the movie.
You are in tears at the end, it sounds like. And he's upset? So upset he wants to break up? And he's also asking you, before this, if this other woman is "hot". You are upset, and his response is to be upset himself.
You walked out... and it hurt him. I'm not sure what you mean by "walked out". If you mean you left the movie after it ended... well.. that makes sense. If you left the area (lot and all) mid movie to go cry... his being upset makes more sense.
You don't know how you can get him to forgive you. Or reconsider. Forgive you for what? Being a basket case? Crying when you needed some emotional support? What did you do to be forgiven for? Nothing.. unless you left the theater AND parking lot without him.
You should have a huge clue staring at you. He's asking you about the "hotness" of other women. Women that are making fun of you. And he's not offering you any sort of emotional support. It could be you are too emotional for him. Or it could be he's just a jackass that doesn't understand how emotional women can be. Either way... he can't handle YOU. And he's letting you know he's looking to move on.
It's up to you in the end... but you're with a guy that is making you feel guilty and isn't there for you emotionally. You should first be asking yourself.. WHY do I want this guy back? What's he providing you? What do you get from him that you do not get yourself? What is the reason you want to date him?
After you answer yourself.... I think you'll discover the answer about "what should I do to get him back" is going to be rather obvious. And your next question will be "What kind of guy do I want to be with?"
2007-03-14 21:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by Speedy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont get it why ur bf is not willing to wait for u outside the theater eventhough both of u will be late for the movie.It doesnt look good to just meet inside apart from it being almost impossible.how can he wave to u if its dark?and why u agreed to the set-up?
See, it was just partly ur mistake if u stormed out. of course u were frustrated for watching the movie w/o him beside u.But he has to admit that he shares with the fault as well.Breaking up with u with this reason is stupid.Do u think he loves you.If the guy does love u then he will definitely understand and breaking off wont be the solution coz he wldn't want u to g out of his life.
2007-03-14 22:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by baby love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you're sorry (only if you are) and that you both made mistake. Tell him why you were upset at that time, and over a dinner treat to make-up the lost time. Wear something totally hot and flirtatious at dinner, that will make him think twice about leaving you. Good luck! ;)
2007-03-14 21:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by eternalblogger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want an immature guy like him back?? Dont you think you deserve a guy who would walk to ends of the earth for you or not make a big deal of a misunderstanding??? Youre wasting your time. It sounds petty to me.
2007-03-14 21:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't know why do u have to apologize to him. I think it's his fault
2007-03-14 21:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by FlyingHi007 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
cast a spell?!
2007-03-14 21:14:59 · answer #7 · answered by guRl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋