I have a guy colleague which same company with me. At first, i don't use to be so close with him. I ever know he have gf for 5 yr & plan to marry before maybe as time past we started to chat to one another so as getting more close than last time.
Around middle of the dec 2006 his gf went back to china for holiday only left him alone that y he's free to fetch me home n work because we staying near to one another.
We find we fell in love with each other ever have sex n been together n use to be quite happy until his gf come back thing change.
He decide to tell his gf about all this thing n the girl cry. When he tell me his gf cry n say she don't know how to life without him so i decide to ask the guy to go back to his gf.
Although, he go back to his gf we stil together now he just keep the secret from his gf. He say he love me more than his gf because of his gf cry until so badly he really not dare to leave him ever don't know what to do.
Can u tell me what should i do??
2007-03-14 21:08:43 · 4 answers · asked by JoaN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, he shouldn't have cheated his gf just because she went back to China. Now, since you decided to ask him to go back to his gf, then why are you still together with him secretly? You are so contradictiing yourself. Relationship can be fatal if not handle purposely. Either you leave him or you ask him to choose, there is no two way out.
2007-03-14 21:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can put up with the arrangement, considering that you are in love with him, then be it. but the long term effect of this when he finally chooses her (because even now he should make up his mind coz he can never have you both happily) would not do you any better than choosing to let go of him at the earliest. Whats happening now is you end up bargaining bcoz you are in love & you've gone as far as having sex... Well, consider that whatever's done is done, so choose now where you can both be happy & hurt less of each other even letting go is hard. There is nothing more painful than allowing yourself to fall in a pit you yourself is digging.
2007-03-15 04:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to insist he makes a decision: either you or her. Personally, I think if he is prepared to cheat on his girlfriend, he would be prepared to cheat on you, but, hey, it's your life. Make him choose. If he won't, find someone else.
2007-03-15 04:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your heart.and think have more to standing relationship with him.
2007-03-15 04:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by hana a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋