I have been staying with my boyfriend for 8 months now but today he just said want to broke up with me?

Question

of course i am very confused and sad. he said that i am a boring kind of person. but i love him very much and i treat him very good since we were together. and now suddenly he just wanna broke up with me. I could not really get over it and it is really hard for me. any suggestions to make me feel better? Plz~~~

wow u guys are really a helper!!!..thanks a lot!!...

Cheers everyone~~!!

Answer 1

I feel bad for you. i'm in a 3-year relationship, so I'm gathering all my resources to give you the best "girlfriend" advice I can share, okay?

Here's how to get your heart back.
If you find that you get hurt in a relationship with a, don't take it to mean that there's something wrong with YOU.

If you worry yourself over this, it will take you a long time to recover from this and get back to a healthy and happy
emotional place in your life. Don't let this pain get in the way of creating something better in the future.

Instead of worrying, distract yourself by immediately finding the new things to start doing the right way.

I find that when you become frustrated,you end up anxious and worried all the time- which is NOT something that makes a man want to get closer to you.

The reality is that since the break-up, you start thinking about your "self-worth"...maybe you've been carrying around some negative beliefs about yourself and your relationships with men inside you?

don't feel UNWORTHY and don't let you're ex-bf think you are unworthy of him!

If you want a man to meet you and know that you're the kind of woman to love, cherish, and RESPECT, then it's a good idea to make sure you know how to COMMUNICATE to him that you know your own self-worth from the very beginning,
and that you'll accept nothing less from him.
If you find it's to late to save your relationship, girl, go ahead and cry your heart out.

But after you've cried buckets, stop.

Go to the mirror and look at what you see, ask yourself, would men fall in love with a woman with a tear-stained face and a broken spirit.

Try to get over it by seeking support from family and friends, get into a new hobby or sport, keep yourself busy, shop.

Make yourself look beautiful so that if you cross ways again, he'd see YOU'RE MUCH BETTER OF WITHOUT HIM.

That you can be a complete person without him.
That you'll find a better person.
And that at the end, he's the one with a huge loss.

You can get over this heartbreak, girl. I know it,.

Answer 2

dont take the blame on yourself. it'll only make you feel worse and really it is not your fault but his. or both of you. if he finds you boring it is not a personal fault of yours but just that your personality is different and he has realised that you arent the type of girl he wants. thats a good thing because you may love him now but later on you'd find he isnt the right one for you either. now you can enjoy being single for a little while, get yourself over him and look forward to meeting a nice boy more suited to you!

keep your chin up, enjoy some company with friends and family and let him go. its the most annoying saying but time heals everything and soon you'll feel better but today is so soon so you can expect to be feeling pretty shitty. eat chocolate and veg out and cry. do whatever you feel that will make you feel better. vent the anger and hurt but don't take it personally. turn it around to be his fault if you must. always helps!!

Answer 3

I'm sorry for you - in case of breakup, I'd advise you to go to your best friends' for awhile until you can find your own appartment (unless he's leaving, which would simplify things), and then there's the good old ice-cream while pouring out your feelings to your friends. It sounds lame, but to get better, you need to get the grieving out of your system, it worked for me.

Then comes the hard part : getting your own habits back, being you without him, and that just takes time.

Answer 4

Since he's made up his mind guess the only sensible thing for you to do is move on. You deserve someone better. Get some friends and go for a cuppa or movie. Keep yourself occupied and cut all communications with him.

Answer 5

I feel sorry to hear that. U should ask advices from your best friend or your family. For now, I think you should take a rest and think positively about this-take a holiday.U deserve a better man.

Answer 6

within these 240 days did u make him happy or upset him,think carefully n reason out one by one.it's sad to say y he wants to break off maybe cos of third person involved(he got another gf?)u should talk to him seriously to find out the actual reason.if not u better leave him n accept the fact that he never loves u at all.take care.

Answer 7

that is a hard situation. what a jerk calling you boring. you know after you live together sometimes it does get boring. you don't go out and do the things you used to do to hang out and see eachother cuz your seeing eachother all the time. I would leave him. he will really miss you and realize the real meaning of boring!

Answer 8

I am sorry to hear what happen, The best thing I can tell you is "Time will heal" even you don't want to think about it, you will. Get out from there you deserve better, make your self busy and hang out with your friends.

Answer 9

really sorry for u ... but dont feel bad ... tht jerk does not deserve u .... u r far too special for him .... go for a nice movie with some girlfriends ... have a slumber party .. do girlie things .. get a manicure/pedicure .. head massage .. all this will make u feel better .. hope u come over it ....

Answer 10

i know people say that you only love once but its not true your going to find great guys that you love so many times throughout your life but until you find that one that brings out the true you, you should be with the people that make you feel like that anyway like your friends and family...........and it doesnt hurt to "accidentally" run into him at his work or the store looking hot! haha