Is it shallow not to talk to a woman if you think she is "too big"?

Answer 1

Your avatar makes you look like a black man. I though brothers loved a thick woman. You're missing out on some good loving!

Answer 2

No, it does not make you shallow it means that you may have a preference... Don't let these people fool you because we all have preferences. It may not be with weight, it may be with financial status, hair color, looks, and whatever else. It is a shallow world that we live in and the first step is admitting it! Maybe, if the weight is the only thing that is unattractive then you should try it before you knock it!

Answer 3

No, it is not.

Don't let people beat you up over this, man.
The woman you choose, should be someone who values like like you do.

If you work hard to have a good life, it is perfectly ok to be selective in the lady you choose for wife. If you don't want a roly poly because you need someone who can be active like you, it is ok to let big people find big partners, while you find a lady you like.

Ever heard the question, birds of a feather, flock together?
Well, there is a difference in snubbing someone if she is too big, & dating them.

You can talk to them & be a friend, but if you date someone, you can and SHOULD have values you look for in a woman.

Answer 4

No. You are not obligated to respond to the flirtations of a person you are not attracted to simply to prove that you aren't prejudiced against her because of her weight/race/whatever.

There is a certain commitment implied in allowing another person to monopolize substantial amounts of your time. I recall more than one man back in high school and college who kept trying to keep my attention on him, even though I didn't find them physically attractive in the slightest and would never have dated any of them. Nonetheless, their constant presence at my side meant that I was seen as less approachable by men who I WAS attracted to. For these guys, even if there was no way they were ever going to get a date with me, it meant something just to keep all the other men away from me.

So yes, go ahead and TALK to heavyset women -- hell, to everyone -- in a friendly manner, but if anyone you are NOT attracted to tries to lay claim to you, don't let it happen. Just walk away.

Answer 5

Yes. I mean if she is "too big" it is none of your business but I would say that not wanting to talk to someone because she is "too big" is more than just shallow. It's mean and racist.

Answer 6

there are all kind of handicaps in life.some we physically see and others we do not.this is a very shallow question in its self.
i am glad that i have been able to instill good values into my children.they do not set people in catagories such as pretty,ugly,etc.......... i have taught them never to judge some one by looks,color,the way they dress or any thing else.you need to get to know a person for WHO they are and not how they look or what they have.remember the saying "beauty is only skin deep".a person can be pretty but ACT so ugly that it literally makes them ugly once you know them.you can never have to many friends either.

Answer 7

who ever gave you the idea that talking to a woman (or anybody for that matter)(shallow or not) is based on size? what does the size has to do whether you talk to her or not?

Answer 8

Our society emphasizes that "thin" is actractive when it comes to romantic attraction. Our brains are also wired to what we may find attractive just as spinach may appeal to one person but not another. Friends come in all colors, shapes, and sizes. Be friends with anyone and everyone, but don't be ashamed if you have a personal preference of what you find attractive. Be yourself. M-

Answer 9

Yes - it's perfectly fine not to date her if you're not attracted to her, but not talking to her is just rude and mean. You don't need to be attracted to every single person you ever talk to.

Answer 10

Dude if you don't think she attractive then you will not be able to have a psychical relationship with them. But don't be a pot calling the kettle black.