my son has suddenly become very fussy?

Question

my son 3 1/2 is throwing temper tantrums..he is (was)generally a very sweet boy...but off-late..prob a week before he has changed and i am very worried seeing this ....
We ,as a couple ,were having some issues and had some 'anger shows" in front of my son,though we did try to avoid it...now i am feeling very guilty that it is cause of this that my son has changed.... :(
but now what can i do to change him...i am trying to give him all the attention..but shud i give in to his demands....i am stuck....please advice

Answer 1

hi, first of all, don't beat yourself up over the 'anger ahows' it happens to the best of us and all children are going to see some of it eventually.. just try to make an agreement to 'argue' nicely ie no shouting yelling swearing etc and no insults and stick to the one problem that you're arguing about without dragging in old stuff, also you could try each of you writing it all down and giving it to the other (write it down in a nice way don't further rock the boat!!)
now, getting to mister 31/2 lol apparently all little children under 5 go through a stage where they have tantrums.. it's not always about what they've seen.. children love seeing how far they can push, and will do so until they reach a limit.. and they need and want limit, in fact children feel more secure when they know their boundaries and know that you will be consistent because this is also a routine and we all know how much kids love routine!! pick a way to deal with a tantrum and stick with it.. you could try ignoring it and walking away so he has no audience for his performance.. you could use timeout- leaving him in a safe place for three minutes then getting him again for a cuddle etc..or redirection where you tell him he can't have what he's asking for but instead he can choose between two other things that he can have.. above all you need to be consistent patient firm and loving.. and don't stress when you give in once in a while.. it is NOT the end of the world! and sometimes it is just not worth the hassle to fight about it lol gotta learn to pick your battles which is really hard!! you could also try teaching him to use his words to express his feelings or draw a picture of a smiley face that is happy or sad etc to show his feelings instead of having a tantrum to help the communication process because it is still hard for him to express clearly sometimes what he wants!! well this is getting rather long lol so best of luck to you with whatever you do and keep on giving him lots of love :) and he sounds perfectly normal and i'm sure you are doing a great job keep it up!!

Answer 2

Ok so you all had an argument -explain to the child that mommies and daddies sometimes argue but that they always love him no matter what. Dont give in to unreasonable demands just because he is a little upset. Set reasonable rules and continue to give him lots of attention. It will all work out - give him some time to adjust back to normal.

From now on if you must argue badly then get a babysitter and go have your argument somewhere else.

Answer 3

The best thing to do when your child has a tantrum is tell him, "When you're ready to talk, I'm ready to listen." Then ignore the tantrum, no matter where you are. I've had to deal with more meltdowns in parking lots and fast-food places than I care to remember, but I always stuck to my guns and my son now rarely throws tantrums--he knows they won't be tolerated, they don't help him get what he wants, and if he wants something he has to ask for it.

Answer 4

Hi there

Take him to a toy store and bring a toy that he can use his energy and work with his hands, or out door toy, he has lot of energy and he cant bring it out, try to play football, basket,pingpong...any thing that move him, also award him when he wins or finish a any good work keep this habit until he gets into it, it will take time from u but do it and let him feel u enjoying the time with him.

G.luck -wh

Answer 5

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Answer 6

DEAR

PLEASE READ THIS AND FOLLOW IT TO THE TEE OK

(1ST) TAKE TIME OUT FOR YOU OK WHICH MEANS THE FOLLOWING A BUBBLE BATH AND BOOK

(2ND) DADDY CAN WATCH THE CHILD WHILE YOU DO THIS OK MAKE HIM PLAY BALL TRUCKS ETC. 20 MINUTES FOR YOU IS NOT ASKING TO MUCH FORM HIM OK

(3RD) MAKE SOME MOMMY AND ME TIME FOR DADDY AND SON SPLIT DOWN THE MIDDLE 50%50 DO NOT DO MORE FOR ONE THEN THE OTHER OK

(4TH) AND FINAL ONE FOR THE SON A BUBBLE BATH WITH MOMMY DARNING THE DAY TIME WHEN DADDY'S GONE BEFORE NAP TIME AT NIGHT BATH EAT BOOK BED PUT HIM IN THE BED WITH YOU TOO HE WILL BE A SLEEP SOUND 30 MINUTES TOPS AND PUT HIM IN HIS BED OK

TAKE CARE

Answer 7

Yes give him positive attention and when he does something bad or wrong ignore it because that would be neg. attention.
try and teach him caress and love all the time!