ok, im very confused and dont know what to do, i need suggestions. Heres my situation. ive been w this girl for like 3 years, and during that time we've separated like 7 times, all because of the same, stupid fights. I love her, and she loves me , of that im sure, but im not happy with how we get along anymore, we always get to fight because of stupid things, and i put my part and so she does at the beginning but then she forgets and we get back to the same, and i have done many things to try to cange our relationship, and make it more diferent, make it work but nothing gives results. im soo confussed cus i luv her and i im afraid to lose her, or to mess it up. i decided as usual to take some time off and she asks me to come back.i have already talked with her many times.
im afraid we are suffering the kind of thing that happens in marriage, that people still love each other but loose interest in their relationship.
2007-03-14 20:32:53 · 6 answers · asked by i_r_macintosh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actually man, that is a good thing many relationships don't last because they do not show there true colors and once they do, they cannot stand each other and it ends. So if you know her and she knows you, you guys argue but still seem to be going on for 3 years that is good.
Also when people get married they usually divorce because they show there true colors and it ends and people that argue and get in fights and bounce back always, will tend to have a better relationship/marriage.
Ex. Me and my girlfriend we have been toghter for 7 months and i have a temper but i do not hide my temper so she can put up with me. By herself she controls me and knows the right things to say so my temper wont escalate. i dont think i can find a girl that can put up with me like she does. with other relationship i had to lie to be with them but with my girlfriend i am me 100% and she likes it, we dont have no lies and we always bounce back its great.
STAY WITH HER.....being able to last 3 years and bouncing back from fights is great.
2007-03-14 20:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same exact thing right now. I am that girl. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 yrs and left him many times. The only thing that I can say is that if you truly love her and she loves you, sit down and tell her exactly how you feel. If that doesn't work then don't go back to her when she wants you to. This way you will make her think about if she really cares about you and that it's time to stop being dumb and realize that she might lose a good thing forever. I know I did. Good luck and I hope it works out for you.
2007-03-15 03:41:25 · answer #2 · answered by marylou6996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont want to be harsh but its time to move on.sounds like my first relationship in which i married him because i was SO IN LOVE.no relationship is perfect but there has to be a happy medium and it sounds like there isnt one any longer.Unfortuanatly it wont get better unless you have some magic dust that i dont know of.why spend your life and time being unhappy and fighting all of the time, life is to short.and sure it hurts and its gonna take awhile but i think your doing the right thing.i stayed with mine for 17 yrs and had kids and i should have left right after high school because besides my three boys my life sucked.i stayed single for five yrs and then it happened the man of my dreams came and yes we have lil arguments but rarely.i refuse to waste my time and his over stupid crap.move on that right person will happen and youll be glad u listened. good luck and take care
2007-03-15 03:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by queen4clewis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no relationship is perfect. there is bound to problems in every relationship just some are bigger than others like yours. what i reckon you should do is maybe if the both of you want it to work go and see a counsellor together and sort it out. After that maybe you'll both realise that your problems were so easy to fix to start with.
2007-03-15 03:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by Brony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't happy, right?
You want to be HAPPY, right?
Time to find somebody who is purrrfect for you!
This person is NOT the one...the puzzle piece isn't working here....find a piece that fits better for you...and you will be sooo much the wiser and happier!
2007-03-15 03:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by ladyk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-15 03:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Tracy Wan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋