We seem ot be getting close to sex... He even tells me that he is 50/50 on the issue and that most of him is saying yes but he has always grown up with the wait for marriage pushed down his throat!! If he says ok let's go should I go with the flow or make sure he is not just doing this to please me? I'm really confused and I don't want to mess this up because we also keep getting closer to the where will we be as a couple in the next few years and I just don't want to mess this up... I'm 20 he is 23... Any help will be appreciated. thanks
2007-03-14 19:33:46 · 13 answers · asked by Curious at age 20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks babycakes, delia, and charles. and no I am not ndian.
2007-03-14 19:41:26 · update #1
go with your gut. I think that you make sure it is what he really wants, or you may blow your chances for a furture with him.
2007-03-14 19:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better tell him the truth that you are no longer virgin if you haven't tell him... coz honesty is very importat in a relationship rather that sex.
Make sure that he really wants it, inorder to keep his trust in on you... And girl's always wait for the signal and not an agressive type so that the man will love you fully because he will have confident to himself that even he went far for a while you are still there waiting for him and not wanting for pleassure only.
Dont you think it was so nice that the man could wait until marrige it means that he has a respect on you, and maybe his just thinking of what would be the result if the two of you will fall into it. You should be wise in every decision you will do because in the end your the only one who will benefit or suffer with it. Always remember that sex is not everything it was just for a minute and done, but on how you will get along is the most important factor..
Anyway just only 20 and his 23 it can wait....
Best wishes
2007-03-14 20:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by carry on 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end, you have to do what is right for the both of you. I could tell you could hold out forever and wait till marriage, but if you're not a virgin and it seems like you want to have sex, this doesn't seem likely to me. Eventually one of you will split. From what it sounds like you want to, but don't want to despoil him or what he is.
I'd take it slow, don't try to TV moment perfect it, just make sure you are both ready. Talk about it before hand. Keep the talk of sex open, make sure you both know where you both really stand. The best person for you to have this conversation with is him. In the end, he need to realize it's what he wants, not his parents, or pastor, or whoever pushed it down his throat.
You're both adults, it's not an easy decision, but as long as you approach it openly and don't let it become the elephant in the room, it won't become a major issue. It also might be time to see where you're going, if he's looking for a wife, and you're looking for fun maybe this is a sign of where you should really be.
2007-03-14 19:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by Cashew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain how you feel about sex in a relationship. Ask him about sex and why he feels that you need to wait. Is it a religious thing or just his parents pressure. He's obviously nervous with a couple of issues.
In the end if waiting till marriage is important to him ask him where the sexual boundaries lie (mutual masturbation etc) and work with those.
2007-03-14 19:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by AlanHB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do him!!!!!
you must test drive before you buy.
what if you guys get married and the sex is horrible?.....you may split up because of it.
Just be commited to each other, do not listen to others, have fun together, be safe and enjoy what you are doing. Marriage is a label, not a religeon or a cult.
2007-03-14 19:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by John K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI! K when I was 16 I dated a guy that was a virgin...its cute really. Anyhew just wait till he's ready...give it time and it will be better. Don't push anything (not saying you are) and trust me it will be heaven for him an you. I unno why I just said that lol.
2007-03-14 20:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by angel5469ca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I no this must be exciting for you knowning you will be the first. Do you no for sure he is telling you the truth? And I would let it happen if it is ment to be. I would not pressure him about it. I would kind of lay low about it and see what happens.
2007-03-14 19:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by babycakes3557 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are sure you are both ready, wait 2 more weeks
2007-03-14 19:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't worry friend enjoy the life. first tell him every think honestly. i'm sure he accept you if he really likes you.
2007-03-14 19:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by Shahma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since u r more experience than him u should know what u should do then,just guide him up.ok.
2007-03-14 19:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋