It seems that girls dont want to date a nice guy or a sensitive guy. They claim to though. "Why are all the good ones gay ?"
When they have a "nice" guy right in front of them they will turn him down. "I dont want to hurt you." Yes, but you will. Its the attitude of a "bad boy" that has them hooked. "My last boyfriend was such a jerk! But my new boyfriend is just like him, isin't it great !"
I believe that girls think they cant do any better then they guy who treats them badly. And when a guy comes along who has charm and grace and is sensitive and caring, he scares them off becasue they feel they dont deserve to be with him. So they both lose out.
Please can someone tell me if I am wrong or right ? I would prefer to be wrong. I am a nice guy.
2007-03-14 19:13:54 · 12 answers · asked by broc_lyrain 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, your right...chics are fickle bro.
Sounds like youare really a nice guy....be that guy and intentionally be a bit harsh or act indifferent next time a chic confides in you and turns to you to be "her pal". Give her a bit of what she obviously is attracted too.
I am not saying go be an *******, just dont always be the crying pillow. Give the old, "you got what you wanted, dont come crying to me" or "yea, well.... what did you expect?"..." at least I would never do that to you..."
Play it back to them a bit less conearned (while still being nice, just dont let them use you ase the "always there for me friend").....they will probably tell you that you are right for seeing their side of things and then put you on their side......then half the battle is won. Now be the sensitive nice guy and have some direction for yourself.
2007-03-14 19:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by John K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. Generally speaking, they prefer them. The reasons seem to vary from woman to woman. Some of them just seem to want something to complain about, so they choose they guy who obviously will cheat on them or hit them. If you believe some of the women who answer here, others choose those guys because they have issues relating to their self-esteem and don't think they deserve any better.
The annoying part is when they act all surprised about it after the fact. As if somehow they aren't responsible for their own poor choices. This isn't rocket science. If they wanted a decent guy, they would choose one.
2007-03-14 19:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's the CONFIDENCE that the bad boys exude. Good guys always seem so quiet and meek. I want someone who makes you think they are good in bed, even if you dont know if its true. Women like to be handled to some degree. Bad Boys give you good memeories. Good guys get boring. But, i'm not knocking either because i'd rather have a guy that will treat me like the Queen I am. And, I'm sure most women feel that way.
2007-03-14 19:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that good attracts the good, and the bad attracts the bad. Seriously. Think about it. Lets say you are in a situation with a guy who is abusing the lady/wife. She thinks she cannot to better because in reality if she leaves him, who do you think she will end up marrying again. A abusive guy. She just keeps on putting herself in the same situation again and again and again. So they go for guys who will treat them badly because that is what they are proned for. That is what they grew up to be like and will keep on going for it. Does it make any sense?
2007-03-14 19:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by Riah92 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy can act as a bad guy cos he can. u can't obviously, because u don't have smth. so this smth u don't have girls don't like. this is simple. we all act how we can afford. so instead of blabbering some gibberish here better take a good look what does this "bad guy" has what u don't. and by the way who told u anyway that u re a nice guy and those others were bad? if this girl tells that he is a jerk it doesn't mean he is. he was acting that around her cos she let him to
2007-03-14 19:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think it's true some some girls seek and stay with bad boys because they have low self-esteem. but i also think a lot of girls confuse arrogance, cockiness, and other bad-boy traits with confidence...similarly, some "nice" guys may appear weak, passive or unconfident, which they are not attracted to. and some girls, like some guys, may be drawn to the sense of wildness or spontaneity that they assume bad boys possess.
2007-03-14 19:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by inquiring minds want 2 know 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's not entirely true.
some girls will go for caring, sensitive guys only,
while others go for the "tough" ones.
others think that they ARE going for the caring, sensitive guys, but they turn out to be jerks.
2007-03-14 19:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by briank1458 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It works both ways, the same way some women knowingly go for losers some men go for women they know are no good for them.
2007-03-14 19:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even i cudnt understand y it happens....but its just that way.. many a times it also happens that guys r attracted to NAUGHTY gurls...so maybe its like bad guys and gals are honest and outspoken..maybe that is wat attracts ppl...even i'm infatuated to a guy who treats me badly & hates me..but yet i dont even think of giving up...so maybe..thats how it is !
hope that helped !!!
2007-03-14 19:19:37 · answer #9 · answered by ღ♥~Samantha~♥ღ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u sound like ur just being nice to get chicks
big difference
bad boys are confident and secure
nice guys ask the woman what to get them at victoria's secret
2007-03-14 19:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by joey 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋