virginity question?

Question

how old do you think you should be when you lose your virginity? and when did you lose yours? i was 15 nearly 16 and i didnt feel it was too soon just with the wrong guy.

Answer 1

I, too believe that it should NOT be casual; but be something special between 2 people who are committed to each other... (marriage). Keep it special, wait for the RIGHT one... MARRY him... ; )

Answer 2

It's not your age, so much as your maturity and reasons. 15 or 16 is not really old enough to make a good decision. Nobody really knows what they're looking for at that point. I remember being that age and thinking that I was old enough at the time. Now, I realize that I had a LOT more growing up to do. It's unfortunate to be able to make such a decision at a young age. Ideally, I agree that waiting for marriage is the best bet. You get married - odds are much better that it is the right guy. Sex also detracts from the time when you should be getting to know each other better as people and just confuses things. Then someone decides they're unhappy and...breakup! Why would you want to lose your virginity to someone who you're going to end up thinking is a jerk?

So...wait to grow up a bit. At least have some sort of commitment - engagement or best of all marriage. If you actually love them and make it to that stage (i.e. the relationship is not going the way of most relationships), then your old enough.

It's not just for the moment - it's for your future!

Best wishes!

Answer 3

There certainly isn't any set rule as to when you lose your virginity. Ok, I can see by what you are writing you are certainly a lot younger than me, and in my day, oh how I hate to say that, we still believed you waited until marriage, or at least until you found someone you thought you were going to marry, so for me, I lost my virginity at 17 or 18, and it was with husband #1. But things are different today, I know that you all grow up so much faster than we did, and you don't have parents who make it out to be a "sin" in the same strict way that I grew up. I would say that 15 or 16 is a time when you should know your own mind, it's a bit young, but probably the standard for teens these days. I know that if I had a daughter I wouldn't expect her to wait until marriage, but at least until about 16 or so. I'm not sure there really is the wrong person, it just wasn't the person you thought you were in love with. Ok, I'm an adult and at times i think virginity is over rated, but certainly not if you are under 15.

Answer 4

Sorry, hon, but I would have to say not until you are at least 18. Anything younger is against my parental thinking. If I had my way, (which I know won't happen) I would want you to wait for the right guy to marry. However, this is the real world, and I know that doesn't usually happen. At least not as a rule. But at least at 18, you're of legal age, and I would feel better knowing you've had a chance to mature, and realize what you're doing and what the consequences are. Nothing wrong with a boyfriend in High School, but I would be a "watch-dog" and trust me, my eyes won't have blinders on them.

Answer 5

I think 15-16 is far too young- even if you feel very mature. You want to start a relationship by first really getting to know each other. Why would sex have to be a part of that? It'll be there in your future when you do find the right guy.

Answer 6

Well, your virginity is something you can't get back. So, what do u expect us to say? I was 16 when I lost mine, totally regreted doing it. It felt good and all that but the guy didnt deserve my virginity. You only have you, so don't go spreading it around EVER. It cheapens you over time. If you can wait until you are married, that would be perfect. But since you probably won't, just be Choosey!

Answer 7

My mom told me a beautiful story when I was 17 years old. She spoke about a group of three teen girls---two of which kept trying to get their virgin friend to give in to her boyfriend...Finally the virgin says "What you are I can become anytime that I choose...but what I am you can never be again."

The story would have probably been more effective if it had been told me to a year or so earlier though...oops.

15 is too young. 16 is too young. I was a mommy at 18 and gave up a full paid scholarship to get married because I was pregnant. You have plenty of time for sex later...

Answer 8

I don't think that any specific age should be put on losing your virginity. I think that it should happen when a person is married. Possibly in love, but this is reality and that doesn't always happen. I guess for everyone it is different. I was 17 years old and I highly regret the whole incident. :(

Answer 9

I lost mine at 15 and I do think it was too young. Teenagers don't have logic behind their hormones and reasoning to handle something as complex as sex. I am have been with the same man for 6 1/2 years and married for 2 1/2 and it is still complex for us.

I think waiting until your 20's and being extra cautious with the diseases out there today is wise.

Answer 10

everybody is different, I myself was 22 and later on realised that I should have waited until I met my now husband because the guy I lost it to wasn't the right guy. My husband waited until he was in his 20's as well.

It should be when you're ready to deal with all the possible consequences that could result from sex. Personally, I think it's something special and think that girls don't think it is since they're having sex at a younger age all the time..... I'm not sayin you should wait till you're married, unless you want to. I wish I had have.

Answer 11

I lost it when I was 14 years old! I loved it. And I loved her. I probably will never forget her. Your question has actually helped me think of her again, and it is a good feeling, thank you. I do not think age defines when is or when it is not the right time. I think what matters is who you do, do it with and also what their intentions are at the time. Is it out of love and curiosity, or just out of curiosity and "oh i get to tell my friend that I got her or him" I am so cool. And also to feel comfortable with it. Good question. I wish i could give you 10 points for asking it. I am in a nostalgic state right now, thanks!