how do i get my husband to stop telling his maa every little thing for crying out loud!!!!!!!!?

Question

hes the only son MIL did all these weird mannats for the lord to give her a son..so the sisters baby him and they DOMINATE HIM i hate themmmmmmm..he's close to his mom he tells her stuff then she analyzes it falsey then gives him the answer then she at some point some day throws the lil comments to me and im like whatttt he told her i hate him..is there a way for me to get him to stop??? or will he stop on his own later??? people tell me start of marriage the man is too involved with his mom& sisters later in life he changes to his wifes favor is this true??????

for pipe...i wasnt talking about ur mother or fatherSS so relax and look for papa

Answer 1

I am sorry you are having issues with your husband. I had the same problem with my wife and my mother-in-law. It was like nothing was off limits for their conversations. After about a year of finding out that she had shared info that she was supposed to keep between us, I finally had a sit-down with her.

I explained to her that though I believed having a relationship with her mother was important, I would like her to respect OUR relationship enough to keep private things between us. I shared with her the feelings of betrayal I experienced everytime this happened, and I finished by asking her to be considerate of my feelings of privacy.

My wife is an amazing person, and she listened to my feelings. I hope you can have the same luck with your husband. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

If you are attempting to control his conversations with everyone it's everyone he'll be telling this not just your MIL or siblings.

Three young women in our family are doing this and everyone knows it because they've witnessed the dominance and jealousy not to mention our sons are behaving depressed and unhappy. Our sons have slowly deteriorated into what young ladies today admit they are trying to achieve...."a mommies boy" a mother - like wife and husband relationship does not make a happy marriage it creates an unhealthy marriage.

So, what is hubby telling everyone?

Answer 3

Your husband has a lot of growing up. Don't kiss and tell.

Talk with your mother about his problems and see how he likes it. If it is good enough for his mother and sisters why not let everyone else in. Maybe he get the picture.

Grow Up! When mother-in-law comes in with advice, let her know oh did he tell you this or that. Be the first to give him away, beat him with his own game. I know it's hard on you but be strong and don't bend so easy. Be firm, let them know he is a grown man and married to you. If you don't want to discuss something let her know it is not open for discussion and walk away.

Good Luck.............

Answer 4

Hmmm..... wat to say. U shud have not get involved with him in the first place since you have already been warned bout his closeness to his family. There's no way we can change someone not unless the person himself wants to change. You have to talk to him. Explain to him that there are somethings which are only for the hubby and wifey's eyes and ears only. Don't force it on him though. Talk to him and tell him that u luv the idea that he's close to his family and that he cud talk to them bout anything. Tell him you wish that you too had that sort of closeness with your family so that u wud be able to share all the nitty gritty details of your married life with them. See wat his reaction is. If he's cool with it, then u really have a problem in hand but if he objects, then tell him how hurt you are that he tells everything that u guys share with his family. Maybe this way he will be able to get the point. Watever u do, don't nag or shout but talk.

Answer 5

three words - mummy's little boy!
I have one of those too. He's not quite so bad but I know how you must feel. You may not be able stop him but make it very clear you won't put up with it. Tell him he doesn't need to go to mummy and he needs to know when to keep his mouth shut. Tell him it's good to be close to his family but he must draw the line or it affects your marriage if he can't figure out what and when to say something then to leave you totally out of the conversation and if you find out it happends again then (even if you don't mean it) tell him to go and live with his mummy and sisters until he grows up enough to be a man married to you!

Answer 6

A complex problem, indeed...

Simple solution - Ignore; do not give them anything to confirm & reinforce their belief. Do not give any importance to the matter and do not react for a while. If they are looking for something that's not there, they should not find anything.

Discuss with him with a lot of patience and stay cool.

If it does not work, try to be a little assertive, later on...

Answer 7

when in a situation u know he told and he knows u know then dont say a word just look at him from afar or near and nod ur head of disappointment and have a look on ur face that states hes a big loser but without making it obvious dont pop ur eyes out or flare ur nose just a simple disappointment look and after that make him note u stopped telling him things then he will understand cuz sometimes u tell a person they dont listen but when u change urself then they FEEL it better.

Answer 8

Well, it doesn't sound like you're gonna win in this situation...HE is the one who needs to step up to the plate here....this is HIS problem...I know that it is driving you crazy....try talking to him..and tell him that this really really bothers you alot! You want for him to stop taking MOM's side...and be more with you..and that he can still have his mom's approval...she just cannot keep having her say in your marriage!! Likewise for the sisters....he also needs to stop "tattling"to his family....he needs to talk to you!!! otherwise you don't really have a "marriage" that is "balanced" correctly! It isn't fair to you at all! and it also isn't fair to your hubby either....these life decisions are up to ONLY the two of you...not the rest of his family...he needs to stop talking only to them.....YOU are the family he needs to worry about..and take care to "protect"....and the same goes for you....don't do what he is doing...to anybody in your family or his! Both of you, Take the BUlls by the horns,...and tell the family....we are taking care of OUR business, ourselves, from now on!!!

Answer 9

You should try to encourage him to make up his own mind! A man is supposed to cling to his wife and not to his mother , father, sister, brothers. it's one thing to value your family's opinion, it's another to treat it as law. Good Luck, there's no way to know if he'll ever see it your way or not. Tell him you think his family has too much influence over his thoughts and your marriage.

Answer 10

Still he is attached to his mother. You have to be more oppen, discuss things and share all your feelings with him. Also patiently hear all what he wants to say and in a cool way give replies and discuss and try to find oout solutions to your common problems, your problems as well as your husbands problems. Slowly he will change.....