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I've seen this guy around my dorm building since last semester and we gave each other eye contact throughout. Near the end of the semester, we had a little "incident" where we both finally smiled at each other and the next time I saw him he silently mouthed "hey" to me, but all I did was raise my eyebrows in amusement. Now its spring semester (and I guess we've gone past the eye-contact part) and now all we do when we see each other is grin. We've never talked. We don't take any courses together and we don't really hang around the same people, so introducing myself to him may seem a bit awkward. Of course I've thought of the whole small-talk thing when in the elevator or in the cafeteria line, but for some reason, something's telling me not to do that. My intuition is telling me that, from what I know about him, we're not ready to meet. Is my gut feeling telling me that the timing just isn't right? (I know for a fact that he has some personal issues that he has to deal with too.)

2007-03-14 18:48:58 · 5 answers · asked by pharmdcougargal12 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Then wait till the time is right....

2007-03-14 19:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2 0

There is science behind intuition and I think you have strong evidence right in your question to support it. At the end you say your intuition tells you this may not be the right time and then you go on to say that you know he has issues right now...that's your intuition speaking. Wow this was an easy one. Seriously by the time you get to college the two of you probably have developed enough social skills so that when the time is right, one or both of you will make it happen. By the way your thought about the elevator is an excellent way to catch him briefly enough to start a conversation. So like I said...when you feel the timing is right, then you can make a move, but I applaud your sensitivity to the possibility that he needs more time. In the meantime keep doing all the real subtle things going......smile or a "hi, how are you" so that he knows that when he reaches the right time, maybe he will make a move as well and he will feel more comfortable doing it, if you have kept the subtle things alive. I really wish you well with this...you are very thoughtfull to care about his well-being before you have even met him

2007-03-14 19:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by chcman74 4 · 0 0

Yes, your intuition is holding you back and telling you to wait. Also, the fact that you know he's got issues to deal with is a pretty big sign because you can see it. If you get into a relationship now, you may lose a better opportunity with him later. The hard part (the awkward part like you said) that I see is that you will have to try to get closer to him so at least you can start building a relationship and get to know each other more. After that, all you have to do is wait for the right time. Good Luck.

2007-03-14 18:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Roger 3 · 0 0

i say live for the day! dont wait because tomorrow may never come. and also, if you guys do click and become close think about all the time you both have wasted because you weren't sure about the timing. chances are, he likes you, and he's shy. he would probably be glad that you talked to him and got it over with. my intuition is telling me you should just talk to him next time you pass by him, even if it's only "hey, what's up?".

2007-03-14 18:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think it IS time to get to know this dude! What the heck are you waiting for?!!!!!

Go over and say hi! and ask him what he's been doing lately?
This will work....ask him what subjects he likes so far...etc....just get to know the man!!! You might end up with a great friend...if not a partner...and it could very well be a friend for a lifetime,....go for it!!

2007-03-14 18:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by ladyk 2 · 0 0

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