I've been chatting online with a guy I met at a bar for the past couple of months. I finally asked him to "hang out" and we went to dinner. It's been 3 days since our dinner and instead of calling me, he AIMs me online. Even though he initiates the online chatting, he says he's busy at work (programming) or just takes forever to respond. If he wasnt interested, he shouldn't AIM at all after the date?
2007-03-14 18:36:57 · 13 answers · asked by C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Does he seem shy or backward to you? If not, then he is aim-ing you just to remain friendly, not because he's wanting to build a relationship. Believe me, if a guy is interested he'll do something about it, no matter how shy he might be. He IS interested in remaining FRIENDS with you and that's probably all he's interested in. Sorry.
2007-03-14 18:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by minimickimichelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know how does it go on in this technological world. When I first met my gf, we first chatted online for 3 months before calling each other or even sharing pics of each other. After the few 'official' dates, we still kept chatting online for months as the only way to talk to each other. (I really hated talking over the phone as I could never come up with a good answer, and hardly found anything to talk about, unlike internet.) But again - we've been dating and chatting over the internet at the same time without picking up the phone. After about half a year of IMs, she finally insisted that we call each other instead of chatting. So, I had to get over my fear of phone.
It'll be soon three years as we're together. So, hard to say what's really going on.
Before her, I've also went out with other girls. Not like a date, more like to find out what's the other person is like, although open to options. Since I wasn't interested in any of them but we could still be considered as friends, we kept chatting online after the 'date', although never really met again. And I almost NEVER talked on the phone to any of them.
Basically, if you want my opinion - it could go either way. I could say he's not interested if he no longer asks you out. Otherwise it might be that he's just so used to IM, and freaked out of the phone, like I used to be.
2007-03-15 01:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by Negotiator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. About the whole iming you instead of calling you. Its how you met. Maybe he just feels comfortable talking to you that way. Or maybe he doesnt want you calling because your not the only one hes dating. As for him taking days to get back to you maybe hes just not interested. The first guy I met offline, I thought I loved him till i met him. Then he was just creepy. I kept in contact with him for a few weeks afterwards so he didnt take it that hard that I wasnt interested. Maybe thats what this guys doing to you. Then again. Why were you expecting him to call you. Why didnt you pick up the phone and call him. You can still do it maybe you'll find out answers by talking to him. Only he knows the real reason.
2007-03-15 01:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley Oasis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on him. My husband and I met online, had our first date in person and still talked online. It's a comfort zone for some people because of some insecurities. Ask him, that will give you the best answer.
2007-03-15 01:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him! Hes the only one who knows. When he takes forever to respond and says hes busy then politely say if you are too busy to talk then why IM me...see what he says. tell him u feel blowed off. Only he can tell u the truth and whats going on!
2007-03-15 01:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 things. he reads into dating tips alot (any guy that always calls 3 days later) and 2 he's just on the computer alot so its convient for him to aim instead of call
2007-03-15 01:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by moodkill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just Not that Into you! If he wanted to talk with you on the phone, he would. He just doesnt want to cut off communications from you right now. He knows that you will still talk to him. Hold him accountable. Men are a trip!!
2007-03-15 01:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems way to pre-occupied. You should be with a guy who at least gives you a little more respect of your time. Sounds to me like he is just not all that interested. Time to move on.
2007-03-15 01:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be he is nervous about talking to you. Its less intimating to talk to someone online then it is on the phone.
2007-03-15 01:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys just use IM a lot. dont read 2 much into it
2007-03-15 01:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋